Every time I think I have everything under control something triggers me and it takes everything I have not to give in. It's a battle I face alone because I've been basically solo my entire journey. I can't find a friend or a date to save my life who is sober. I joined here hoping to find a sense of community and maybe something that helped me find my purpose, a reason to get out of bed. I still haven't found anything yet. Where do sober people go to forget their problems for a night?
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Ah, the tribe comes in time TJ. Sometimes we're the beacon, sometimes we're the seeker.
I've decided I don't need a purpose, after many years of searching. It's enough to spend each day doing something I love to do and spoiling myself deeply. Life is so short, we know that better than most. If you had asked me a year ago what I did in my spare time, I wouldn't have had an answer for you. Ask me now, I have a hundred things on that list!
I did a paint by numbers the other day just for the he|| of it. Felt kinda silly buying it for myself. Now that I've spent a few hours peacefully brushing away, I feel silly for never trying it before!
I bet there's a whole lot you don't know about yourself. Isn't that exciting?
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Even letting my intuition guide me but the whole get a job so you can afford to breathe thing is hitting me really hard right now.
That started in the middle of my message. I said thank you, that does make sense, I feel I still have a purpose, I have.......
The slow crush of capitalism, I feel it in my veins!! Not the kinda crush I'd like to have but hey 
You're getting there, I always feel like things are just out of reach until we let go of how they're supposed to come to us. Each day we do the work and cross it off the list. The rest falls into place as we need it.
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Some days staying sober could be a full time job. It's a struggle only someone who's been through it could understand
I went to an august burns red concert in Nashville a couple weeks ago, to was great! You're not alone brother.
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Don’t forget them, overcome them
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That's what I do. I just need a break. A vacation maybe
Ok, just dont let your guard down, i know it sounds cheesy, but there is someone out there for you, she may even be right next door! Any hobbies? Let it be known. As well, there are more apps on the phone being developed all the time for sobers (and if you find one let me know haha) good luck!
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Hey TJ. Maybe hit some AA meetings. You can gain tools to fill the void alcohol left and build up a sober network of people.
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