Venting/Advice

Mental Health
#1

Im the sober one in the relationship (been sober since getting pregnant in January), its been really hard trying to encourage my partner to stay sober.
He's an addict in multiple forms of addiction, we already have one child together and I'm really worried about bringing another child into that environment.
When he drinks he cheats, lies, gaslights me, neglects his share of housework and time with the kids.

He's been to treatment within the last year, refuses to do meetings or therapy... I just feel so at a loss.

Any advice thats not just "leave him"? Because I've done that so many times over the last 5 years that I no longer have any support myself.

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#2

The best advice I can give you is you can't make someone get sober it does no good until they are doing it for themselves all you can do is pray for him and honestly worry about yourself and those babies because they don't deserve to be in that environment they didn't ask to be here. I wish you all the best and hope you guys can figure it out. Probably didn't help at all but im always here to talk if you need to.

#3

I agree with Tina, I was told i don't get anybody drunk, and I can't keep them sober. And there is always the saying "Nothing changes if nothing changes." If my partner is unwilling to change to be a better person, have a healthy relationship with me, and be a role model for our kids, and if I'm unwilling to make any changes to protect my sanity, protect my children, and jump into a pool of uncertainty and allow God's will to intervene, then I'm doomed for a lifetime of the same misery.