I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, he's been telling me that I need to lose weight, that I'm not skinny enough. Days I need to fix my teeth. That I eat too much. He wasn't like this in the beginning of our relationship. I'm so depressed and I can't take it anymore. Do you think it warrants a discussion with him or should I just end the relationship?
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I am so sorry, I am going through something similar with my on again off again boyfriend. Not the insults but just not supportive which doesn't help my recovery at all. I think he should like you the way you are though and not try to change you.
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Definitely talk with him and if you can’t agree than cheerio
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The best thing that you can do for you and your recovery is move on. Tough I know, but you have to realize that you are better than that and you deserve better. Good luck to you😊
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The only weight you need to lose is HIM! You deserve a man who will lift you up and support you. Not put you down.
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Sounds like a pr!ck. I'd buy him a cactus as a goodbye keepsake and move on. If he can't motivate and encourage you in a positive manner he probably isn't helping your journey.
Find a guy that appreciates you for YOU. We aren't all that shallow I promise.
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Say ot again Whitney! ;D
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Sounds like he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder…. You deserve someone better than that. Do yourself a favor and get out!
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If he isn’t supportive then he needs to go , and insulting u on top of u working on your sobriety is just a real a**hole move
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lol at buying him a cactus. I’m totally going to use that.
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Dump him, then lose weight and get your choppers fixed.
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Is he drinking/using? Does he want you to join him? These are reasons for him to put you down and make you feel bad about yourself. Stay on your own path and if you aren’t living with him, stop seeing him.
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Agreed!
End it.
Have a discussion. Have you told him it bothers you?
Maybe look at his motives.
Does he simply want you to be a healthier you?
Our overall health, including dental health are often ignored when we’re drinking and using. Better health is part of being sober.
However, if he’s simply berating you for no good reason, you should let him know that it needs to stop. Or he can go.
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Bail now bail fast people don’t change overnight a talk might curb him a day or 2 but he will resort back to his ways, bail please
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He is projecting his own insecurities on you. Has something changed recently on his life? Regardless verbal abuse should not be tolerated and will only get worse. You shouldn't have to tell someone to respect you as a human being.
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Your higher power has made you perfect and should not be molded especially if you’re feeling this way. You don’t have a picture but I’m sure you’re beautiful as you are. Your beauty should be honored not molded 
Life is so much more peaceful and serene without toxic men. I dated one although he was always 50/50 with his drug addictions you never knew what you were gonna get. Living on edge. Calling me fat on my bday only because I was mad he wasn't home...
I've nvr been more content sober and alone. 
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I’m not relationship expert by any means but I would say ditch this loser as fast as you can. It’s affecting your mental health and sobriety in a negative way, no relationship or partner should do that.
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