Weekend Blues

Recovery
#1

Weekend Blues
I began sober living two weeks ago. So far I have avoided all temptations. But I have been staying home and away social situations (especially the night life) in order to keep my mind clear. I am so bored! What kind of activities do you all engage in during weekend evenings to stay away from all the drinking (other then binging on Netflix)? Or does it just take time to feel ready to get back out there? I am single and not open to my friends yet about my struggles.

P.S. I am also using this as an opportunity to save money which is a plus! :laughing:

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#2

Go to meetings. I know it’s cliche to say this, but it will help you shed some of that guilt you’re wearing like an albatross around your neck.

You are giving yourself the best life imaginable. Sing it from the rooftops.

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#3

Hello Kate. I hear you about having a weekend blues. I used to get them all the time as well. Especially when I first got into recovery. I didn’t know what to do with myself. So I went to meetings all weekend and I went out for coffee with some of the people after the meeting. Got to know quite a few people that way. And before I knew it my weekend blues we’re going away. So I would suggest is Craig dead about going to meetings. Talking with people after the meeting it may be going out for coffee. You may find a good sponsor that way and meet many good people for your sobriety group. But now these days I can do whatever I feel like doing on the weekends. Without the alcohol and with my new friends.Just keep doing what you’re doing by talking about it I’m getting different ideas from people.

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#4

Hiking, walking, reading the big book, meetings, big book audio recordings. Steps, meetings, helping others, volunteering, meditation, prayer, cleaning, cooking and laundry. Those are the fun stuff I do in sobriety. :joy:

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#5

I have a dog, a lab, he can walk forever and doesn’t care the time of day. He doesn’t talk much so he is really good company. But when walking a podcast or audiobook is good too. To avoid drinking I try to do some thing that I can’t drink while doing. OK, fine, I could drink while walking the dog, but if I can at least leave the house without a bottle in my hand or pocket then I can make it through the entire walk. If you need book recommendations let me know know - Are used to have this girlfriend that I would play scrabble with, Slusar would give the other person a book. It was a great way to try new things. I know that’s pretty nerdy. But I’m not ashamed, at least not being a nerd

#6

I read books recovery related and fantasy novels, or drive out to a lake or ocean and watch the sunset, go to a meeting online (refuge recovery meetings are my favorite), call a friend or just hop on loosid and connect with my sober folk. I'm in a rehab that doesn't let us go to in person meetings because of the pandemic and we have no programming fri-mon so I understand boredom and loneliness, I have 4 house brothers but they all mostly stay in bed all the time! Lol

#8

Gee well I got thru past 16 mos w books & movies, had no friends anyway. I like to research & scheme out trips I will take. Of course AA will vacuum up alll the time you can give it :grimacing:

#9

Exercise, food prep, and ride my bike. I would also really look into a group hobby or activity if you can. Worst case go for a walk. You would be surprised all that you see and, even with the storm coming, how much fun it is to walk in the rain.

#10

Well Kate what I do is surf anytime I have free time…Ive developed a passion for it and fell in love with it…it’s very therapeutic peaceful and serene plus very very exciting when you catch a nice ride down the face…
If you know anything about the neuroprocesses when we use drugs or drink then you know why these emotions are important in recovery. I can explain a little about it in layman’s terms if you want…i just don’t want you to get bored if I tried hahahahaha

#11

They gave us a CRASH course in neurology when I was in rehab last year

#12

i feel you weekends are so tough. i always accompanied the thought of weekend go out have fun. i had to really reinvent. but i also been smoking weed so its not true sobriety. but idgaf im happy

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#13

Sober living is a great way to save money and work on your new sober lifestyle. I go to meetings and have started to meet new people with similar interests. Talking and dancing is always fun for me (even though I’m an introvert) it takes a while to find a rhythm, but when you do, you’ll be happy for making a choice about meeting new people.

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#14

Go outside. Jog, walk, snorkel, scuba dive, go the beach, go hiking, biking stand-up paddle boarding. All of these activities will help you connect with nature and thrive living a sober lifestyle.

#15

Going to meetings sounds cliche but it's good to meet other people in the sober community who have been through what you're going through. Then once you meet some cool sober people, going to the beach and doing activities with them

#16

Aa meetings &. Meetings

#17

It is uncomfortable but your going to have to learn how to have fun within your best friend - alcohol in any form wether vodka or fentanyl
We all have the same problem which is anytime we put a mind altering substance in us, we can't stop. If your not ready to be all in with the program, then your addiction will find a way back I'm. We're not like normal people who can drink a glass of wine at dinner. We will drink two bottles and then go get more. The only couple of drinks I want is to have three in each hand. If you think you would be tempted by going out with your friends, then maybe your not ready to really get sober. And that is ok. Just don't die in between your sobriety attempts.

#18

A sponsor is really important as a sponsor has time in active addiction and sobriety. I needed someone to tell me how to stay sober. You must feel that their words carry weight and depth to you. They are going to give up their time to help another alcoholic. Let them guide you as obvious I don't know what to do.