Well,I’m court ordered to go to IOP for the upteenth time for 2 DUI. I’ve been to treatment twice. Numerous IOPs and docs. Since I’ve been 31. So any advice this time around?
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My advice, you're screwed... Untill the pain is great enough to get you to surrender there no chance and the cavelier tone that post tells me that you have not hit bottom yet, but remember it might seem like it's bad but there's always a bottom below the bottom you know.
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Well,I’ve learned in the 100’s of meetings I’ve attended that you don’t have to hit rock bottom and I’ve seen many that have gotten sober on their own. No,NA,AA,not even spiritual. My grandfather was a perfect example. He was in an asylum early when he was 17. Then went on to serve in WW11. When he returned home he went on to be county clerk for 22 yrs without drink 1. So,if you think it’s NA/AA or you’re dead you’re badly mistaken
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One more observation. You may wanna speak with your sponsor about being judgmental. I think that’s in the forth step
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Adam, welcome to Loosid.
I went to treatment twice, quit a few times before that. This time I went to IOP, 30 day inpatient treatment and AA,NA, life ring, recovery Dharma and church.
I’m currently working on my my 6th step with my Sponsor. I go to AA as much as I can. I help others when my help is needed. I read spiritual books. I listen to audio recordings of speaker meetings. I’m making new friends in AA as well as here on Loosid. I’ve learned to get outside of myself as this life isn’t about me anymore. It’s about the people all around me. If I make a bad decision it affects me and those around me.
Good luck! 
this is your journey. Find your higher power of your understanding.
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Thanks for ur support Kevin! Appreciate it
Just sounds like you don't want it I'm sorry
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When you’re ready to stop drinking, you will stop.
Sincerely ask yourself if you’ve had enough with the drugs and alcohol, are you truly ready to stop. If you are rigorously honest with yourself, you can stop drinking. But it has to begin with honesty
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Good afternoon Adam. I feel you and I’ve been in your shoes amongst many other people shoes. I thought the same thing at first that I could do this on my own. But as soon as something happened I had to have that alcohol. There was no way for me to stop on my own. I went to rehab on my own. And from there I spent six months in a the whole crisis center. And then from there I went to a halfway house for a year and a half . And then from there I went into a supportive living program for another year and a half. That’s how much help I needed. And I still need help and I have 37 years sobriety. That’s why I’m here I’m grateful alcoholic one that still needs help. I love who I am today and I hated who I was. All this might not be for everybody. But if your court mandated you might want to give it a try for once after two DUIs. Next time you might not be so lucky. Might not be no next time we never know what’s gonna happen. And some of this is the Toughlove the people need sometimes. And I’m sorry if any of this offended you that’s not what my intentions are. I am like Kevin I have all these years of sobriety and I love helping other people as much as I like helping myself. There is many of us here to help you I hope you stick around to get help from us in other places. Sorry for the book but that’s just the way that I am. There is many sayings that we have an AA. And one of them is one day at a time. Think about what you’re doing to yourself and what you’re doing to others around you especially the ones that love you. Once again I am sorry for the book.
Thanks fo ur feedback Kelly!
I have to ask, how bad do you want to be sober? Do you want to do this or are you just trying to avoid jail? You can be ordered to go to rehab all day and if your sobriety isn't because you want better, then it is a waste of time. I had an old friend who was ordered to go to AA and lost his license God only knows how many times. The last time he did he had rolled his tractor into a creek. The judge was gonna do the usual but he stopped him. My buddy told the judge he wasn't gonna quit drinking and if he had a license he would drive drunk. The only way to stop the cycle was to permanently revoke his license. You either want sobriety or you don't. Nobody else can make you do this.
Apparently not bad enough. My first cousin stopped by last week to say hey. It ended up with me telling her about recovery and she needs it now. What a freakin hypocrite!!
Just stop doing it think about legal issues
Only you know if you want it bad enough. I've seen a lot of people know they need recovery, bit not want it. It is like saving a drowning man. He knows he is drowning but if he doesn't want to get in a boat...
If you want this, take advantage of every tool and program they have. Rehab and detox alone can't do it for you. You have to build a sober network.