Well I went to rehab for 30 days I got back home Monday. Today walking out of the store a cop tells me I have two warrants for fta over tickets I got over a year ago. I don’t remember even getting them. It was during my active addiction. My bond was 3k cash. I’m glad I was/am sober and I’m going to keep at it but this just sucks. My mom keeps saying I should’ve stayed in jail to learn my lesson and I try and explain that I didn’t relapse and go to jail this is from when I was using. It seems no matter how much I do well my mom doesn’t think it’s good enough and it hurts. I just wish she could see all the good I’m doing and not keep telling me it’s not enough. Sorry for the long post.
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I completely agree I just wish she’d tell me she’s happy I’m doing well and keeping on wanting and remaining sober. She doesn’t understand addiction she thinks you go to rehab and you get cured and I don’t know how to explain to her that it’s not something that goes away.
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Having to answer for the things we did while using is one of the hardest things, especially when we are experiencing the benefits of sobriety. Hang in there. You’ve got this!
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Burning down our worlds took some time. So does rebuilding. Don't trip. Just take it one day at a time and let people get used to the new you.
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Been there. It’s no fun.
I had to realize something.
I was wreaking havoc among all the people around me for years. A period of sobriety that was huge to me was not convincing to them.
My track record was horrible. So I decided to stay sober a day at a time and build a new track record.
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Thank y’all I really appreciate it. I know it’s going to take time I just want to make her proud. I’m proud of myself and I want her to see the good I’m doing.
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Keep your head up !! Know this Do this for you, no one but you. Making amends is part of our steps in recovery. Yes words can hurt they can cut. But keep an open mind that yes you were in your addiction and now your doing everything and anything to surround your recovery. Keep your head high, be proud and be loving an kind to yourself. Your worth it . Be patient with yourself, more important stay clean n sober, good luck don’t beat yourself up:blush:
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I believe she does feel happy but also unsure if it will last. At least that's how my parents were. After me saying to them how good I'm doing over and over relapsing, it's almost like the boy who cried wolf. On one hand, it's amazing you are 30 days but on the other hand, it's only been 30 days. Give it time and just keep doing what you're doing. She should come around. And if she doesn't, you have to be ok with that. Don't let the world change your smile, let your smile change the world.
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Are parents r our biggest critics but we have also got too remember all the pain and heartache we have caused them so their use too are old behaviors just give her time we want instant gratification cuz that’s what are addicted brains are telling us,,, if you have time get the living clean book and read the relationships chapter very informative
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I'm sorry you are struggling with things right now, but remember to be thankful you have your mom in your life. And that you and her talk even. I don’t have that. I know it sucks to go through everything that you are going through currently and no matter what some strangers online say, it’s not all of a sudden going to stop sucking… but the gratitude list works great for this struggle. If you can start writing out what you are grateful for, personally it helped me realize TONS of things I'm grateful for I didn't even realize I was. Just a few things to think about. Also, this is great that you can now make the relationship between you and her better than it ever has been!
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I love that Don’t let the world change your smile let your smile change the world!! Beautiful 
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Most people don’t understand addiction unfortunately. I’m in a similar situation w my soon-to-be ex-wife. When I first started my sober journey, I really wanted validation from her, for her to tell me that she’s proud. It never came, but I was aware that if I didn’t get validation from her, it could trigger a relapse. But that’s because I started the AA program in an attempt to win her back. She’s still very angry about my addiction that I hid for many years, so it’s gonna take a while for her to process her anger. Getting back together may not ever happen again, but I want to remain sober regardless of us being together or not! What I’m trying to say is that you have to want to get sober for YOU first and foremost. If it’s for someone else, there’s a good chance that you won’t make it. I hope this helps
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Keep on smiling and keep on your path. In time your mother will see how you have changed. Like everything it takes time. Focus on you and being sober for you, the rest will take time.
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The people closest to you can hurt you even when they are trying to help. Forgive, forget and carry on. No one will love you as much as you can love yourself.
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