Well today is day 70. Been feeling pretty good for the most part. Things between the wife and I are very questionable. We decided it would be best for me to move out. Get keys to my place this week. Should be thankful I am able to afford a place to my self. It’s in the same neighborhood as my current home so that will be nice the kids can hang out when ever they want. Just crazy thinking about not being in the same house as them everyday. No desire to drink or anything. Trying to stay thankful and positive, just sad. Got some really good friends to lean on these days.
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A new beginning. And able to be with the children. Best of luck!
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Prayers to you JR 
hope things work out …. Stay strong and sober 
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Good luck. 70 strong.
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JR - I don’t know anything about your life story but I know mine - Remaining positive & becoming the person anyone would admire for their integrity, humbleness, courage, faith, etc.; losing old patterns that created conflict & mistrust will ultimately create positive changes for you. It can take others as long to believe the changes in our life as it did for us to acknowledge we needed to make a change. Be as patient with others as you would choose for them to be with you. Ignore any negative comments that are probably a result of our past behaviors. There is a fear in our loved ones that they did not choose but they continue to react to long after we change. I have lived this from both sides. I learned in the process that there existed cues I was not aware of and yet I was controlled by it. An example, husband comes home from work 15 min late; husband comes home on time but there is a difference in the sound of his footsteps when he is angry; when he is totally sober & happy, my defenses can still be triggered by the 15 min or the sound I perceive when he is walking into the house. It takes time to relearn & release defense mechanisms that have been our shields. There is hope - consistency over time leads to trusting the sober behaviors.
Keep moving forward & in time you will see the progress.
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Keep your head up JR! I’ve been through exactly what you’re going through. And I’m living proof that no matter how things turn out you are on the path to a better you and a better place! It’s not always easy but it is entirely worth it!!
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One day at a time. 
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Sad is okay. It might not feel okay, but it'll heal. One of the things my sponsor said repeatedly in early recovery was 'a feeling never killed anyone, but actions taken based on a feeling will.' She was definitely right. I'm glad you don't feel like drinking, and am here any time you need to talk. Family stuff is hard
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Thank you everyone for the kind words!