I’m not sure I like meetings
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I wasn't a fan of meetings at first.i tried a few different ones until I found one that I liked.there's a perfect place waiting for you.there are many different kinds of meetings,you will find what works best for you if you keep trying.
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How was it like
It was alright. Everyone was really nice I’m just shy and awkward. I like hearing the stories though
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It’s okay to be shy and awkward. Keep coming back!
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Max you don’t have to say anything until you want to. Just keep going back
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I have found that I like certain zoom meetings: I procrastinated going back because I didn’t like the meetings, however trying more and more I have found 2 meetings that work for me.
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Maybe you just don't like the particular meeting you went to?
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I was the same way in the beginning Max. It didn't take long to overcome all those fears once I started sharing. Keep going back and it will work for you too!
Most of us have a degree of social anxiety to start with. W’s feel awkward and uncomfortable wherever we go. It doesn’t sound to me like you had any particular problem with the meeting itself. In fact, it sounds like you related to some of the stories. I suggest you continue going, and make a few friends. It really makes a difference in my life. It may do the same for you
I hear you, my suggestion is to go often for a set period of time with no expectations before forming an opinion and ultimately a decision wether it’s working for you or not. I had a similar experience but my view progressively changed and now I’m near 3.5 healthy happy sober
Max, it is a good sign if you dont like them …its what is best for your life and worst for your addiction! Just keep going and to the same meetings and you will make friends quickly! Keith Kayle
I'm not sure which program you're trying but know there are other sober promoting programs other than the big ones you may like better. I do SMART meetings in person and zoom, there's Refuge Recovery and plenty more; I recently got the Church of Satan sobriety program recommended to me....addiction strikes all sorts in all walks of life. Good luck.
Don’t beat yourself up max. I’m not a fan of meetings either. But it definitely works for some!! Sobriety isn’t a “one size fits all” approach. Do what works for you.
I didn’t like meetings myself, give yourself a chance. At first I didn’t have a choice, court mandated. Today almost 4years I GET To go to meetings. Trust me I know you don’t know me, but don’t leave before the miracle happens. Trust the process. Plu in to meetings your desire to stop drinking,using whatever will stop. Get a sponsor get numbers, surround yourself with positive people.. I promise it will be the best decision you ever made, work the steps.. good luck. You got this!
He said he’s not sure he likes meetings. He then followed that up with that the people were nice, and he liked the stories. He said he’s just shy and felt awkward. So, I don’t think he has a problem with the meetings. It’s more about him getting comfortable in his own skin.
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Have to get involved and remember out of your comfort zone is ok … bunch of people just trying not to drink works for me power in numbers
Yeah, that’s an honest assessment of the beginning, I didn’t like meetings for awhile, I did a 90/90 (90 meetings in 90 days) and it helped change my perspective. All meetings aren’t great but every meeting I’ve ever gone to I come out of feeling better than I went in.
I’m also not a fan of meetings. I get a nugget or two now and then, but mostly find them unhelpful. There are many paths to recovery. Find a program that works for you, be it 12 Step or one of the others. SMART recovery worked for me. That said, if meetings are keeping you sober right now, keep going as you look.