What do I do now? How does one meet new people outside of AA? How can I still have fun while sober? These are the many questions I have and the same response is always, "when it's time." My response to that is, what if time already passed me by.
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you clearly joined this app because you know you have a problem with alcohol and it has a negative impact on you. Instead of reminiscing on the fun times you had drinking think more about how it negatively affected you the more you think about that the more you’ll want to stay away from it. Go to bible study & meet people outside of AA there. If you have any hobbies join a club for one of them. Reconnect with old friends that were good influences.
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Check out the MeetUp app. Search for ‘sober’ meet-ups - there are a ton on there. Or ThePhoenix app, which is dedicated to sober activities. Good luck!
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Ok. I'll take your advise.
In the beginning it was great with a lot of laughing but at the end it took away everything I ever wanted and loved. I didn't have much fun. I'm here because I'm trying to connect with a group or friends who share the same thing as I do. Here their stories and talk about mine. Get support and really have someone rooting for you. Why else are we on this app.
I started doing things I fondly remembered from my childhood. Riding bikes. Swimming in lakes and rivers. Camping. And I was surprised that they are still fun. And I read. So much more. Because I can focus and remember. Same with tv shows.
When drinking I really only watched movies because I couldn’t remember a show from day to day or week to week. And I only read stupid Facebook shitt.
And I’ve made friends here. And live meetings. And with non-drinkers. But I’ve shied away from the crew that still parties. That’s for sure.
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What's wrong with making friends within AA? I strongly suggest doing the 20 & 20. Get to meetings 20 min early & stay 20 min late. This is where friendships & fellowship grow. I've made many good friends this way. Volunteering for service work is another great way to make connections. Also, trying new meetings & expanding your sober network.
I've found my golf buddies, fishing buddies, concert buddies etc all within the fellowship. They keep me safe, too.
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