What isn’t on my mind. I want to let my

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#1

What isn’t on my mind. I want to let my ex wife know that I’m doing everything I’m supposed to do. Here’s the thing in my active addiction I lied to her and it’s hard for her to trust me now. But now it’s everything I do now she don’t believe me I’m lost someone help

#2

Shannon, i get this 100%. It’s likely she wont believe anything you have to tell her or say, but it’s going to take her seeing the change for herself. Consistency, deep work, over time. And agian consistency. Most of the time when trama through betrayal of lying is involved, there is conformation bias at work as well. This means that a belief system about you has been established already and all her thoughts are being filtered through that. So she is looking to veriy her beliefs about you instead of seeing what is actually happening. It’s likely all others in your life can see your change but she will be last to see because of the lens she views you through. I would work. on your spiritual condition, try not to let her affirmation or lack of be your GOD, and keep being consistent and pray for her recovery from your broken promises through lying.

This is my life. I have been there and I’m living this also. I know it’s tough but you can do this. Hang in there brother.

#3

Thank you I greatly appreciate it all the advice. She is my world and just want to show her I can be the man I once was if not better thank you again!

#4

You need to stop worrying about how she sees you they only thing that matters is how you see you,I promise you this if you frustrate yourself with this you will relapse let go and let life show her I been you I am telling you from a man who tried to recover for others it don’t work live your life stop trying to prove to others who the new you is just live for today and live for you
Don’t worry she’s watching even if she says she’s not she’s watching to see you fail again so Stop and do this for you your the important character in your new story

#5

Thank you I will it’s hard to do but I will

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#6

Good man ! You got this stay the course

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#7

I hope she comes to trust you as you prove yourself every day, thank you for sharing. We're all in this together man, I know you can stay the course.

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#8

Thanks bub I appreciate that

#9

I’m with 2.0. Put one foot in front of the other and live where your feet are. If it’s meant to be it will work out.
The most important thing is to stay sober one day at a time and not push for an outcome.
Hang in there.