What's your biggest tip for someone new in recovery?
I wanna hear what you all have to say
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I agree with Christopher, stay busy. Find sober groups even if they are online. Find or reach out to friends who will hang out with you without drinking. Yoga and meditation are great tools for calming your mind and helping you focus. If you have cravings, remind yourself of the reasons you quit. Think about the next day not the drink. Best of luck. You got this!
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Also just getting outside for a walk or any kind of exercise is a good distraction.
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Keep coming back and don't use between meetings. Get a sponsor, use them, and work a program of recovery. It does get better
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Stay around people striving in the same direction as your self meetings and don’t go around people that are using
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Exercise helped me so much in the first 6 months - mentally and physically. If you drank and used like I did getting your body in better condition is important. Walking in the morning and evening.!
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For me, it was doing a lot of AA meetings at the beginning. It helped me stay out of my head and I developed a lot of friendships by getting to know people who were also living a sober life.
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Stay busy and pray…. Find sober friends.
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Don't drink go to meetings.... you're worth it!
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Don’t trust your brain!! It’s been tricking you your entire life!! Don’t drink and go to as many meetings as possible and you will learn to see through your own deception and build on a solid concrete foundation!!!
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Get a solid support group, write it down and post it somewhere visible. Reach out when struggling. Drive for 90 meetings in 90 days for as close to that as you can possibly get. Practice makes perfect, if you slip up, try again. Put together an action plan for how you are going to pull yourself through your darker days. Share it with members of your support group so that they know how to help you. On it you will want to list your reasons and motivations for sobriety. What helps you through the tough times whether it be music, getting Outdoors, whatever. People who are supportive of your sobriety and offer good advice, things like that. The tools you will need to be successful on those tough days. Everyone else is offering great advice as well. Learning where and how to socialize without going to parties, clubs or bars can be difficult. Join a club, a sport, church group, something like that. Many people allow meetings alone to become their social outlet. Nothing wrong with that either. Great question, you will do well, I know it! Congratulations on taking this monumentous step, the straight and narrow path of sobriety!
Don't be afraid to dump people who are still using ... This one can be so huge and very tough. Awesome tip! Each time I relapsed except for once, it was due to this very hurdle. Sobriety can get lonely at times. This alone causes so many to fail out.
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I had the gift of desperation and 90-90 helped me a lot.
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Reading the Big Book really helped me, especially when I couldn’t reach my sponsor & between meetings. Reading about this thing I was struggling with & stories of others really made it easier for me especially in the early days. 
Ask for help.
Learn to make calls every day, go to meetings and ask for a sponsor. Even if your not sure about stopping experiment by acting like someone who does.
My suggestion is definitely one day at a time. Build a recovery team. I know when I first got into recovery my mind always went to a bleak future with no drinking on vacation etc. but by taking it one day at a time I will have 33 months. Go to meetings and listen and take what you need. I ended up with a counselor, a recovery coach, early recovery meetings and some amazing recovery friends. It hasn’t been easy all the time because I am the only one in my family in recovery (there should be a lot of us) but it’s only me. I haven’t been to family functions my entire sobriety. My family is all about the alcohol. So I stay safe. I use my boundaries very serious. I have gotten people mad but I need to do me right now. Alcohol is glamorized everywhere but they don’t show the real affects of it. I watched my brother die yellow and my friend was found dead in his car, he bled out from everywhere in his body. Sobriety is really the best thing. Just stay strong. Sorry if this sounds harsh I am just passionate.
Be kind to yourself, you were just dragged through hel!