Sober friends in Maryland. Where does everyone go to meet people? Of course we can’t do the same bar situation. Where does everyone go just to find companionship with people like us??
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I find a lot of people I like to hang with in AA. Also, some I wouldn’t want to hang out with too lol. But i have a lot of fun. Went golfing and to some cookouts with the guys. They take their recovery seriously but don’t take themselves too serious if that makes sense. As far as dating, as much as I miss intimacy, I really just have to take care of myself and kids right now. Some sacrifices will be worth it in the long run
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I really need to get to more meetings. I am totally with you focusing on the kids. I did the same. My 3 years is next month and I need to get out and about lol
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Ya you do lol!!!! Have fun.
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I’ve also been having a really difficult time finding any sober friends as well. Not sure where to look other than meetings. But I don’t really vibe with the principles and steps of meetings. I am not powerless over my addiction. I can do anything I put my mind to. It just doesn’t really seem to fit me. So I’m not sure where to go or look
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Yeah it really is a difficult undertaking to replace the bars and clubs in the itinerary of an alcoholic/ addict. I second the meetings(AA or SMART, etc.) because they have that basis of sobriety that I think is a deal breaker for most of us, both in dating and friendship at this point 
. Then, health- based programs at a YMCA or gym near you. I.E. kickboxing, yoga, cycling . They are usually once or twice a week and pretty cheap. Jiu-Jitsu here but those gyms are a little more sparse. People in these classes are usually health-focused and often sober by default. Oh...and SMART groups often do planned activities outside of meetings. They are pretty ubiquitous in Maryland. Good luck!
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“Y’all need to come out to NorCal..”
I like the gym, church, volunteer opportunities, and sometimes the grocery store.
Good suggestions.
I’m not familiar with SMART recovery. I am totally struggling with drinking being deal breakers with ppl that I can be around. Makes it lonely.
I'm at a place where I go to events I'm interested in or meet friends at restaurants/bars occasionally and I have a great time drinking things without alcohol in them. These are places and persons I already know though.
Boy do I wish
alright, well consider me a connection on the Left Coast if you please
Mindfulness groups can be a great way to meet people. Book Clubs are good too. Trivia Nights can be fun depending on where they are held.
I know what you mean. I am cool with occasional drinking...like events and celebrations...for friends at least. It's the habitual drinkers that influence us terribly imo. Personally, I just don't want it around if we are talking about partner. If they drink "out" and sporadically, and infrequently....it's been fine 
. It's not fun making others adapt to me, but no way around it at this point. I've heard nothing but good about SMART....I don't attend it only because I am in a desolate state . I've found many in Maryland before ( my sister lives in Hagerstown), but I'm not sure about your exact area. I may relocate due to that very issue. That would be my primary move . Good luck.