Who else lives with a heavy drinker? I love my husband, but he drinks daily. Most of the time ge is happy and fine. Lately he has been super mad and flying off the handle at the smallest things.
Yesterday he woke up late, freaked out on how,much he hates his job, broke a glass dish, and was just an asshole. I came home from work,and he was super messed up and incoherent at 4pm. Today he wants to act like everything is fine. I have had these days too, but it ia rough
You need to talk to my wife! Lol
I was that same person.. eventually she started to put up boundaries.. went to support meetings and discovered just how much of an enabler and co-dependent she was.. eventually I needed to leave.. I have since cleaned myself up.. and our relationship is again good.. but we still live apart.. I have a lot more work to do and we both realized we couldn’t work on ourselves and each other at the same time.. we talk all the time and still hang out.. but go out separate ways at night and continue to work on ourselves to give us a chance to work together some day
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Thank you Joe for sharing I needed to hear that
Hey Daphne! Tricky question for sure. I’m in the same boat with my husband, and have absolutely no idea how to navigate these waters. What Joe said above about his wife having been an enabler/codependent before putting up boundaries gave me food for thought…maybe counseling would not be a bad idea for us.
Alanon family groups may be something to consider. You'll meet plenty of people who are dealing or dealt with the same thing.
I hate to come in here and be a big downer, or grim and depressing.but I have had many friends who could recite your story from memory. You need to get through to him before it gets worse, and it will get worse. Get to an alanon and build a network of support without him in it. You may need it.
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I was in a relationship with a heavy drinker. He went downhill while we were together and became abusive. Then he would apologize and act like everything was fine! I tried to help him but he passed before he could get the help he needed. I sincerely hope your story ends better and he can get help! Best of luck to you.