Why am I feeling like I'm failing my girlfriend by staying Away from her instead of trying to be there for her.I told her she needs to do treatment and she wont go through with it.She won't stop guilting me sometimes calling me 6 times a day leaving messages how I have hurt her do much because I walked away .She is sounding like she is on the edge of a cliff and ready to jump if I don't come back to her.I'm so confused and feel I am not supporting her becsuse I want to ne with her to make sure she is ok.Am I doung the right thing?
I understand.....wish I had advice but similar to you I told my other I needed to sepate for my recovery as she too is an addict and won't stop so after calling me every name in the book I feel confused like you. My sobriety and recovery is to important but is it selfish in a way? Stay strong
What you are doing is excersizing what is called tough love and it is exactly where you need to be. A person in the grip of addiction need s to hit there own rock bottom and réalise that it has all been taken away by themself and there actions. They will try and blâme you and make you responcible for there bad decissions because it is way easier to blâme shift than to accept they have made some bad choices to drink or do drugs or both and that is on them not you. The best you can do is tell your friend I dont accept what your doing but when your ready I will walk beside you on a road of recovery
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If it’s confusing it’s not meant for us!
That is exactly what I said.Thank you for reassuring me I am doing the right thing.She is doing exactly what you have said she will do.
Stick to what is best for YOU! Be selfish now - get well - you are doing great
If you don't take care of yourself first, then you won't have what it takes to help anyone else. She's being manipulative. Stick to your own program and lead by example. You are not responsible for her behavior or her choices. Hugs! 
It's called setting healthy boundaries. Im 7 months sober and had to end it with my girl. She is not a alcoholic but she definitely is not healthy either and I'm trying to get and stay healthy. Healthy and unhealthy will not work. Your doing the RIGHT thing. I pray on these matters. Good luck