Why are relationships (of any kind) during recovery so difficult to manage?
Today was a challenging day for me. I fought really hard not to relapse, it was hard but I won!
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I think that a big part of it is that you are in a process of reclaiming your authentic self. That coupled with other people’s baggage can get messy. I try to focus on keeping my side of the street clean but it is a struggle.
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@rebecca376816 That's an easy answer. You're trying to stay sober and heal while all they want to do is destroy you, get drunk and care about themselves only.
I’ve been married for 12 years together with my wife for 13 years. We are definitely going through the hardest part of our relationship. I was sober for over 10 years and she never saw that side that we all know exists. She definitely has abandonment issues and although she feels like I never lost my moral compass, she doesn’t trust me. Relationships are hard in recovery.
try to just be yourself..
First off, what a great question! There are two answers that are coming to mind right now-self will run riot combined with fear of people, places, and things. Part of “the promises” is having that fear removed. The disease of alcoholism being in the mind means I’m not mentally well. If you are beginning to notice how hard it is to have relationships it’s my thought that you are healing by having that awareness. 