Why is it recommended that we don’t have relationships while we’re in recovery? Overheard a sponsor and sponsee at a meeting the other night. Sponsor said Do Not get into a relationship while you’re in the beginning of your recovery.
Because pu$$y magic is real and makes us do dumb things.
Interesting to note though, everyone who has ever told me that did NOT adhere to that suggestion in their early sobriety.
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Gah dang 
D@mn right pu$$y magic is real 
I think they advise that because in the early stages of sobriety, you're quite vulnerable and impressionable. At least I was. You're really not thinking clearly either- everything is very instant and naturally instant gratification is pleasing... so a like or flirting or whatever comes across a bit differently or in an unintended message. Plus, you may fall into this codependency trap- etc...
If you know you can handle it, by all means- play with magic! 
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Welp, I know for me the choices I would have made two years ago are far different than now. Heck it took a year or more for the fog to lift!
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From my own personal experience...
I did not listen to that suggestion when I first started my sobriety journey. The people I dated were not very healthy and ended up being toxic for me. I eventually relapsed. The second time around I listened and stayed single. It wasn't easy but I am still sober and just got my one year coin.
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It's different for everyone. AA, like any program has to standardize things to more of a one size fits all. I get it.
Pu$$y magic is the only magic I believe in.
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I dated here and there and I’m still sober as can be. To each their own I guess. But I’m not an AA guy.
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