Wound up slipping again last night when I would have

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#1

Wound up slipping again last night when I would have had 60 days today. How can I not feel like a total failure?
I don't mean to be so humdrum, I just can't seem to get this right.

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#2

Don’t give up - sending you positive vibes

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#3

I appreciate it, man :heart:

#4

Don’t get down on yourself. Every day is another chance to turn it all around

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#5

Very good point. This time I have to completely dismiss all reservations.

#6

Today is a new day Jessica! You can’t go back and unring the bell.
Take the chance to look at what led up to relapse. What were you feeling? What was happening in your life? It’s not really a relapse if you keep coming back. You’re just a chronic recoverer!!

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#7

Be mindful of your self talk. Work on that and I have found the setbacks to be a little easier to take and not end up reverting to old behaviors.

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#8

Focus on what you can learn from the relapse. That’s how you turn it into a positive.

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#9

You're absolutely right. I was counting myself out again, in my head thinking I was going to relapse. Each time I do though it becomes more clear how much it really isn't worth it, at all.

#10

I am very hard on myself.. Downright mean to myself honestly. Have you found any certain exercises helpful for speaking more compassionately to yourself?

#11

Thank you, Shawn. I am a fairly negative person as much as I loathe admitting that. I'm told to look for the silver lining. I used to be more like that.

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#12

Welcome back. It is definitely a journey. Keep trying

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#13

Thank you, Robin :heart: I definitely will.

#14

Yeah try talk to yourself like you would to a friend. The things we say to ourselves sometimes are way more harsh than what we would say to anyone else. Haha

#15

Jessica, get back up.....you can do this, we are human beings, we make mistakes....but to not get back up and start over, will totally erase the hard work of the past 59 days. If you slipped and fell in the middle of the street, you wouldn't stay there would you? No, you would get up and keep walking. That's what you do here...just get back up and stay sober, TODAY. We are all here for you!!

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#16

Everything is a progression and you can make it a positive….you will always be stronger if you just keep taking aim to where you want to be….love yourself for that

#17

You still have those 59 days which is an amazing feat in itself. You haven’t lost or thrown that away. You continue . Get right back on and be intentional every day. Listening to speakers and podcasts have immensely helped me so far. Try reaching out to your peers and attend any of the hundreds of virtual and in person meetings. You have much to give and share

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#18

Jessica you never failed. You just lost a battle in the war. You won 59 days and lost 1! Keep fighting trust me your right where your supposed to be slip ups helped me find my way and even-though in the moment it seems miserable in the long run it will help you figure it all out and get you right where you need to be ! 1 day at a time! No matter how many restarts and time it takes ! You got this Jessica !

#19

Not a failure. You had sixty days and a blip. Reset and go again.