y'all right when I think I can do this something happens how do you live with a narcissist who has custody of ya child and can't afford housing because you're on disability like nobody is hearing my pain man I'm tired
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You’re doing the best you can with so much on your plate. Please keep posting, and let others support you. Sending strength tonight. 
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Thanks so much for the support
How do you live with a narcissist? You don't! It takes a very unique individual to live with a narcissist and to win so to speak. Depending on the level of narcissist you are dealing with plays a major factor. If it's physical then I would recommend getting out asap. If it verbal and mental that is just as bad but it can be accomplished. If you can maintain your mental and emotional health that is. And this is just my opinion for the record. Speaking from experience and living with one for 13 years and counting. To survive living with a narcissist when you don't have an option to get out, you have to pretty much become a good actor/actress. You become 2 different people I guess you could say. One is the person you truly are and want to be that is happy and healthy physically, emotionally, mentally. The person that smiles and enjoys life. The 2nd person is where the acting comes into play. If a person plays their cards just right,the narcissist will eventually see something is different and realize it doesn't work anymore. The narcissist feeling like they have the upper hand or have some sort of power or control over you is what keeps them being that way. When they start having one of those moods and you probably know what type mood I'm talking about. When that type situation occurs for me, I act the part. Let her think she is right, I don't argue with her. I go along with whatever the reason that triggered the mood swing. She tells me everyday she hates me and wishes I would go and get out of her life. Everyday she tells me that along with what a piece of sh!t I am. And my reply is, I love you. You may hate me, but I love you more. The worse she gets, the nicer I get. But in my mind, I want to tell her exactly what I think about her mood swings and how she really is from my perspective. And that's what I used to do. It took me years to figure out when she has one of those moods, I don't raise my voice. I don't cuss her back. I don't call her names like I used to do. That's what they usually want. They want us to argue back and scream and yell so it can fuel their mood even more. And a full blown narcissist, you can never win an argument with then by screaming and fighting. And I'm not saying goodbye I win now by being nice. I'm just saying that it is alot more tolerable and peaceful in the house compared to what it used to be. The moods aren't as often as before. When I said she tells me everyday she hates me, some days it's meant in a bad way. But alot of the day now when she says that, it's because she don't know how to react to me being kind and nice. She smiles and laughs in a good way most days now in that high school sweetheart first love, butterflies in your stomach type of feelings. She may want to hate me, but I want to love her more... Sorry for the long response, I get lost in words sometimes and don't realize how long I've been talking or typing. Maybe you can get something helpful out of everything I said. Wish you the best of luck and stay strong. Remember your current situation doesn't have to be your final destination.
All the best,
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Just remember you are in control with your actions and reactions. Keep sharing and go to AA meetings. Try to find a positive thought within all the negative. Keep on keepin on!
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Thanks so much I honestly needed that because I am honestly tired and been with them for 12 years but I been sleeping on the couch for two years out of them 12 but could you message me so I won't put all of my business on here
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It’s always better to be alone than to wish that you were. I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel for you, and you can get a place of your own soon.
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Yes you are so right and thanks for saying those kind words it helps rather people know it or not so thanks a lot I surely appreciate it
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