Yea, but you don’t care.
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Raymond I think you’ll find a surprising amount of support here if you look! I’m new to the community but I love it so far 
How can we help?
I care, many of us are and have suffered too. Keep your head up soldier
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What’s up Raymond? You are a member of this community. I care. We care
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Huh??
It sounds like you gotta shake up your routine my man. We can get stuck in a rut whether we’re drinking or sober. We can’t rely on anyone else to make this easier for us if we aren’t willing to go easier on ourselves first. I had to let go of control, life on life’s terms is real. Having a fit body is great but a fit mind is just as, if not more important. Take some time to reflect on why. Be honest with yourself and take action to be better today. Don’t stress about what could be or has been. Reach out, brother.
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I care dude
I injured the muscles/tendons around my right clavicle from lifting and basically can’t do anything upper body related for at least two weeks. Really frustrating because it was about the only thing I’ve found that helps with my constant sh*t mood.
Also, honestly p*sses me off because I’ve worked for a couple of months and I was finally starting to see chest development and starting to like how I looked.
Been a really rough road since I accepted I’m not what women want, physically, and now that I was finally getting to a point where I looked better and now this, of course happened, and I’m set back.
I’m just mad at myself and it’s such a useless stupid reason. Why would I ever think I’d be attractive and fit, anyway? Why on earth would the universe let that happen for me? Nope, just going to be a bald sexless loser forever.
That’s the frustration I’m dealing with right now. Honestly, I know no one cares because people don’t care about men’s struggles, they hang out with the winners at the finish line. I accepted the hard truth of how much of a loser I was and I tried really hard to change, now I’m set back and I’m dealing with that reality.
That’s what’s going on. Real, honest, thoughts.
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Well said!!
Appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. Believe it or not, these are very attractive traits to many females. Personally I think your problem is 99% mental, not physical. Your appearance is more than fine. It’s an inside job my friend. Perhaps this is the perfect time to spend more time learning to love and accept yourself the way you are. On a side note, I’m very self critical of myself (as most of us are), so what I’m saying I need to apply to myself as well. Love you brother
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I think you’re handsome bro. You know in a non sexual way
Bro to bro
Yeah I threw all of that out the window years ago. Let’s be honest, the most attractive men typically are never on the same level when it comes to mental strength. (Not saying it can’t happen but “gym bros” aren’t known for being the most intelligent) That said, Lee is on to something. You know what women want? A man who is secure with himself, is honest, caring and selfless. Flex that mental muscle and be you, man. Physical strength fades and anyone who can only see that far into a person is nobody I personally want in my life. I suggest looking at it like this, be who you want to be, not what you think others want you to be. Nothing good ever comes from forcing it, think about it like hitting a baseball. If all you do is think about hitting it you’ll miss more often than not, once you just let it happen and swing, you’ll make contact.
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Well said, sir.