Yesterday was my first sober birthday in more than 25 years. I suppose that's something to be proud of. I won't lie, the next few days are going to be difficult... With family barbecues, a couple concerts, and a fest. What was I thinking starting this journey now? I believe that if I can get through these few days, I will have the strength to continue. I want to back out of it all, but my stubbornness won't let me. I am nervous….
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Ya gotta walk through the fire at some point. But you’ll come out the other side with even more confidence that you don’t need to drink to have fun at those events.
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For me I have and continue to back out of functions I know I will be uncomfortable in. I am not always confident in myself to stop me from slipping up. So I am very protective of myself now. My last relapse was at a restaurant that I used to go to. My husband ordered a large beer. When he wasn’t looking I took a Hugh sip and within the week I was back at it without husband even knowing it. So that’s what I still do not go. I haven’t seen family in 33 months. A lot of drinking. Not ready. Good luck in your choice. I hope you have recovery people you can reach out to. Take your own car and maybe take a sober friend. 
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If your afraid, it’s ok. In recovery we’re allowed to feel! I would suggest maybe take someone that’s got more time sober, so when and if the desires run through your mind, you tell on yourself. You and your sober friend can just get up and leave together. I just wouldn’t put myself in a position like that if I still feel the urge to drink or use
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I started before Xmas and been through many work parties and travel, even a week in a casino. You can do it!
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Awesome, you got this. And HBD!
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If the people you're spending time with are supportive and aware of your sobriety, that will help a lot. You don't drink, they know you don't drink, so you don't drink. It's being alone in tempting situations that are the hardest, I've found. As you continue your sobriety you'll find what triggers temptation inside you, and respectively learn to avoid and manage them.
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Congratulations! The only one freaking out about the next few days, is you. I have found that us humans are so consumed with our own entertainment during this time of year that we don't pay attention to others....Unless we truly care for each other.
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Just take it one day at a time.
That’s all any of us have.
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Happy Belated Birthday !!!! Stay Strong !!!! You can do anything you want if you put your heart in it !!!! Your Stronger than you know !!!!
Do you have anyone in a recovery program you can call? I felt the same way when I first got sober and you can do it. It helps to stay busy and maybe stay away from situations that will trigger you. You can do this!
Congrats on the year!
Your not alone in struggling at this point. Many, myself included, reach an inflection point around the year mark. Stay strong and connected to community. We are in this together!
Do the do’s. I can’t say too strong if you really want to succeed commit to yourself and go to 90 meetings in Ninety days. Your head May spin at some point but that’s a good thing.
It is more than someone. Congratulations it’s major majorly something!