Hey gang. Brand new here, desperate to try something new.
I’ve been working on getting sober for a year now. My longest streak so far is 35 days. I can string together a few weeks here and there, but…I just can’t get past the anhedonia. I find sobriety unbelievably lonely. I get depressed, my vitality zapped, i turn down invitations for fear of drinking. Or I go out and feel horribly separated from the world. And I just start to think: Is this the trade-off?
My main trigger is socializing. I’m a natural extrovert. I also recently moved to a new city and it’s been a struggle to feel a part of things when I’m not drinking. I’ve tried meetings but mostly had pretty awful experiences. The sober scene here doesn’t seem social at all.
They say connection is the opposite of addiction. So why is it so hard to find a sober tribe?
Would love to hear from folks who took a long time to make this stick. What was your turning point? And how did you find your sober fam?