Anyone having issues with showing their feelings? Like they’ve been hidden from alcohol/drugs all this time bc we didn’t want to feel them or didnt know how to express them and it was easier when you were f*****. Now your sober and your like w** do I do with these!? 
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Feelings? What’s that? Oh you mean those nasty little things I’ve been running from since childhood? Yep, I have some issues
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That is normal. It took me time to learn to handle those pesky things. I ended up talking with a counselor because of my liver and being a recovering alcoholic. It is a lot to take on. Really started hitting me about a year or so into not drinking
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I went to AA for over three years before I worked the Actual 4th step and was launched into 5-9. Quickly after I got to get counseling, lots of it. I had two alcoholic parents and the adult friends were . Dangerous. I also had a sponsor who made me go to Alanon and I went to ACOA.. I wanted/ want still to be better than I was. There's always more to get. I can share complex emotional content now. But it's a journey. I remember dating sober was a literal trip. Being intimate, more than talking..A huge trip!
But it's a process. Heck recently I discovered by accident a YouTube channel called crappy childhood fairy which speaks to me. She explains how our childhood trauma still can affect us. I promise though. Like working the actual steps the work we put into getting healthy tools for relationship Pays off in all areas of our lives.. I write a lot when I'm passionate about a topic...
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Great topic btw
Absolutely. I find trying to keep my mind and body busy seems to help. I also meditate to get my thoughts and feelings organized and tune out the static. Keep going you got this.
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I say it was those feelings that caused us to use in the 1st place. Self mediating numbing and artificial peace. Journal get it out
scream at the top of your lungs get it out.
Real peace is possible
Just gotta get thru the nasty part first. 
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All the time. A feeling will come up. I have to stop try to process and match the emotions that go with it. Laughing while I’m mad or sad is the obvious one
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They just don’t match up. It’s extremely difficult. Grounding work and mediation help
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Lately it’s been more of I can’t not show or share my feelings. I cried a couple months ago in front of my daughter and once I cracked that seal it was over. She said she’s never really seen me cry. Not saying I’ve been incapable of emotions. Just that I have always been reserved and guarded in expressing them. Anyway, she’s 14 and it hit her heavy to see her dad cry. Now we just look at each other and cry the second one of of us looks remotely unsettled and hug like it’s our last chance to do so. That’s made me an overly emotional b00b in almost every arena. Im 22 days sober and have totally lost my $hit a few times in the early stage of my sobriety. It’s very confusing.
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Not anymore
Love this!! I totally get where your coming from!! I would love to chat.
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I really really really relate!!!! My feelings have been smothered and covered and hidden underneath so many substances for so many years, now I feel like I’m so boring and blah and even catch myself thinking “ why would anyone want to be around my boring blah self?” But I have to remind myself that my hardest, most “ boring” day ever is SO MUCH BETTER than any of my “ best” days in the past when I was using & ripping and running! I’m still a work in progress & we are all miracles & have a much greater purpose than the hopeless lives we were once living! Everyday won’t be perfect because life isn’t perfect but better days are ahead for each of us, I truly believe that!
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Thank you! I totally agree!!
Feelings are valid, communicating them takes courage
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It sure does!
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I relate so much...I'm a bundle of emotions. 12 days sober here. I've bottled so much pain inside me. I've cried more lately (which isn't much! Lol) than I have in decades
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Do you have any family or friends that are safe spaces for you to express yourself?
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