2.5 years sober and I keep thinking about letting loose and drinking again. I miss having fun with friends.
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It’ll be ok. Loneliness can be part of the healing journey. I m struggling too
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I’m curious, Kimberly, why you won’t have fun with friends? I’m just at 15 months sober but love going out with friends to concerts at bars and other venues. They can drink all they want. I’m happy to be with the friends sipping on water. I think the isolation can be triggering. I’ve found that after a couple of hours with the drinkers I’m so glad to have a clear head!
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It sounds to me like you are romanticizing the good times. Play the tape through. Why did you get sober in the first place?
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It's much to do with the company you keep. If you find the right friends, you won't feel like you need to drink to fit in or to enjoy yourself. Congrats on 2.5 years! Keep it going!
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I think for me personally, I have a hard time feeling comfortable and confident still with a lifetime of substance use to get there. I do enjoy going out with friends but not to the level of experiencing complete freedom from the worries that come up in my mind.
The company that I keep is the worry and analysis constantly happening in my own mind. I felt free of it while I drank. I have a hard time getting to that point when I’m sober. Even after multiple years of therapy and effort to build confidence.
I have mad anxiety and I choose to be alone most of the time, but I'm making it a point to go out to places by myself and just get away from home. Wearing sunglasses in public helps a lot. 