And hopeless. When I have the pipe in hand then I have everyone around me. As soon as I try and be sober everyone disappears and this is when I need them and their support the most. I am coming down off of uppers and that low feeling automatically makes you kind of depressed but when you also have to deal with everyone bailing on you… smh. It makes me want to go back to doing what I was doing to begin with. I need to be sober. I know that’s the right thing. But I don’t know if I can do this alone…
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I believe in you.
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Cut those “friends” out. I remember having those who would always be around when the bar was involved. Mention sobriety and its like you died. It shows who cares and who is just along for the ride
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Try meditating if you can it’s a good cornerstone habit to help you fight off other bad habits you may have. It’s also one of the only documented effective ways to increase self control.
hit me up on snapchat brazzleb if you’d like to discuss. I was over 32 days after three or four other times pursuing sobriety and working the steps, but not being able to stay sober but this time is different and I think I know why.
Hang in here love 
I joined a fellowship (AA) to help me fight the loneliness. I was on uppers and downers- anything to make me feel different. But I had to go find like minded people that were trying to better their life and it has changed my life. Just try to stay busy and do your best to eat and sleep as best you can so you’re at least physically feeling better. Reach out!
This is your test, you can rise above this,. Your inner self knows what’s best for you. Love yourself enough to make this dramatic change, you have all the power, all the resources, all the light and love within you.
You don’t have to.
I remember those days. “
The fun never ends, as long as I’m buyin’”
Those people were never my friends. They were supposedly grown up Play Dates. That did nothing but leave me feeling dead inside.
Our disease wants us dead. I just tell myself I can drink tomorrow, I just can’t drink it today. I wish I could tell you it’s easy. But I can promise you it’s worth it. ODAAT.
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You're not alone... We've all been there and are willing to help you through it. I know how you feel it's sucks to look back and realize that none of the people you surrounded yourself with actually cared, and it's even harder when we get clean and flooded with real emotion again. I promise you can get through it though and it's so worth it. YOU are worth it... You just have to stick it out through these tough times. Don't quit before the miracle happens and soon enough you'll find yourself surrounded by people who genuinely do care for you and want to see you succeed and be happy. You are strong. You can do this.
Those aren’t your friends. Friends don’t make you feel lonely. I was sober 13 yrs. In sobriety, I cut off my 3 best female friends. Why? They weren’t good friends to me. I was a good friend. Known them 50-60 yrs. They are selfish. They only care about themselves. They only think about themselves. What a waste! I relapsed Aug. 1. I drank for 6 mos and 13 days. Tonight I will have 4 days alcohol-free. It became a habit so fast. Drank every day. It’s a trap. If I’m obsessed w/the drink, I can’t really socialize. The alcohol is my main preoccupation. It limits where I can go and when. It cuts me off from good people. Who wants to be around a woman sucking down brews? I was certainly not happy. I’m not happy right this minute but there’s hope in sobriety. I can’t do it alone so I’m meeting other alcoholics face to face. I kept getting 1 day, 2 days, 3 days. Then I had to go to the liquor store..but again, I’m moving into 4th day. Be sure to eat.
It gets better and easier! You have a new life to live and will find good sober friends. Can you take a walk or find a sober friend to watch a movie with? Finding anything to occupy some time can help you get through another day.
Or just sleep! That's my go to in my darker moments, when there is no one or nothing to do.
Going throw a very similar situation right now. I don't think it's exactly that there not your friends it's just that the drugs control them too and the drugs see you a threat and will do anything to protect themselves. I figure a little loneliness and pain now could save me a lifetime of it in the future. But it sucks being all alone. I'm gonna try to use this time to make a better me so maybe I'll be ready for someone good and never be lonely again
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Jon has got the right idea. Focus only on yourself and staying sober. To heel with those "friends"...they've shown their true colors. If you are struggling with withdrawals or cravings and keep giving in you need a medical detox. I know I keep saying it but it helps you get over the hump in those first few days. I was in there with plenty of folks in for meth. You just sleep a lot and you are anxiety free knowing there is medical staff around. I wouldn't ever do it any other way in the future. These places are everywhere and take any insurance including Medicaid/Medicare and will often admit you through ER or sign you up if you have nothing. I just googled medical detoxes in my vicinity and picked one with decent Google reviews. It also allows you to get away from all those bad influences to get a foothold in sobriety. Just FYI but I would highly recommend it for you . No shame, I never could quit on my own and had a few "friends" that would send me off on a bender every time I saw them , so got away from them too.
Good luck girl
Wish you strength and serenity
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But your not alone! It’s a community of us doing this with you. Stay encouraged it’s gonna be lonely but it’s for the best the ending is so much better.
They are only friends because of the pipe in your hands. Those are not real friends.
Something that helped me in the beginning when I needed to give this a real try was to focus on getting through the day & getting EXCITED for sleep time, focusing on being able to lay your head peacefully at night & that your safe in your bed <3 find shows that are comforting to watch, for me it’s The Office or a lot of comedy shows! But focusing on one day at a time & that pillow at night being your safe place is what helped me <3
It gets so much better mama I promise hang in there once it's outta your system you'll see how much better you feel in a few weeks. I didn't give it time at first but then when I stuck to it everything got so much better.
Feel free to hit me up anytime. I have been there and totally understand
I thought I had friends till I got into AA groups and was shocked at how much in common i have with total strangers. More so than long time “friends “ that just wanted help paying the bar tab. Your not alone when you’re on the sober side of life. It gets better just hold your head up and be proud of yourself. Reach out anytime