Has anyone felt it gets harder, not easier, the further you get into your sobriety? I know I’m not that far into it but I’m finding myself more irritable, on edge and depressed lately, wanting to cave even though I haven’t and really don’t want to! Just curious if anyone else has had a similar experience in their sobriety.
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Absolutely! Everything you're describing is exactly how i'm feeling right now.
The feeling of self sabotage, even though you don't want to is such a real feeling. Even when things are on track and going well, there's still that little voice in my mind. You got this girly! We both do!
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Are you currently working steps?
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I made it to 90 days yesterday. It’s been important to me to go to AA meetings, get a sponsor and working the steps. Happy to provide more info from my fresh experiences on this. 
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Yes, it's normal . It's a bit of a rollercoaster in the first year, but anything worthwhile takes time and patience. The second year, it gets more steady. The highs won't be as high, and the lows won't be as low.
Remember the promises. They really do come true, and that's coming from someone who didn't believe it would.
Keep busy with a lot of mtgs, get phone numbers from other women, introduce yourself to new comers and get a sponsor, and do the steps.
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Yes I have the same feeling it is so hard I struggle everyday
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Absolutely, especially in the early times of sobriety. Good news is you don’t have to do it alone get connected and service commitment really helps too.
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My 1st year sober was a rollercoaster of emotions!!! 2nd yr was more dealing with regret and consequences but i have leveled out and feel more like the me I used to be
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Yes we all feel and/or have felt that way at some point. Most of it is due to we now have to adjust to living a new way of life which is the sober way/life. It gets easier. I'm not sure if you attend meetings. I go to AA and I have a sponsor. I'm here for you.
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I've found that AA was/is vital. That said, one thing I did appreciate from treatment was the concept of Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS). In short, lots of chemical, physiological things happen after we stop drinking. Mine peaked at about 90 days when I internally experienced rage. I'd look at a coffee cup and want to eat it, kill it or f**k it (lol).... THIS TOO SHALL PASS! Please, stay close to fellows in recovery and actually TAKE (not just read or talk about) the steps. Going to meetings without taking the steps is like sitting in the ER waiting area but never getting into being seen by a doctor.
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No, I am not and I realize that’s important. I haven’t found a place I am comfortable with yet.
Your feelings are valid. I can say as the days go on the easier I have found it to be. Keep striving and pushing forward. It does get better.
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Yes but as long as you keep God close to you and it gets easier I'm day 45 sober it gets easier trust God and all things will come to you as his will
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It's hard , everyday is a struggle, find some good supportive people to walk with, it helps, eventually with time and healing it gets easier.
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Congratulations on your new journey! Yes it’s completely normal to feel what you are. There will always be ups and downs. Keep in mind you basically hit the reset button on life. It’s so different in the beginning because you’re literally learning how to play this “game” called life in a whole new way. All we knew was how to play the game while in addiction mode. It will get “easier” but in my opinion never “easy”.
Meeting Guide is a great app that you can find online meetings as well as meetings in your area.
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Mindy... You're preaching to the choir. We've all gone through that. It's your body fighting off the toxins within.
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You are just feeling all your feelings. Feelings you probably haven't felt in a long time. It will pass. Just hang in there. One day at a time. Sometimes it's 15 minutes at a time. You can do it. I have 12 yrs next month and you will be happy you did
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Oh GAWD sister you're only at 3 months. Just wait for the terrible twos.
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It did get easier as time went on, for me. The obsession & cravings subside. That doesn’t mean you won’t think about it, you obsess over it like you did in the beginning.
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It gets easier! I’m nearing 3 yrs sober and feel like sober and sane living is my normal now after decades of other.
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