Almost 4 months sober, and wow I got here fast. Today I’ve been thinking maybe I’ll just have one glass of wine later. But I don’t want it to turn into a relapse. I’m not sure if I’m far enough in my journey to just casually have a drink without relapsing. Any advice ?
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Not even one , no way
Once it passes your lips it triggers your allergic reaction and then it’s relapse. If Complete absence is the only way.
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Hey Ash congratulations on ur 4 months of sobriety that’s awesome 
Me personally i’m an alcoholic who cannot drink. I feel casually drinking isn’t for alcoholic like me! Do you identify yourself as an alcoholic? Because if you do then I suggest you stay away from that first drink. Because we as alcoholic can’t CASUALLY drink we don’t know when to stop ever! Even when we think we got it.. My Last question..What does sobriety look like to you? Are you trying to “Learn”how to drink because a person who isn’t an alcoholic doesn’t need to learn how drink
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Yes I would consider myself a alcoholic. Like during work i would not drink. It was only in the afternoon/evening but I would literally drink till I finished the whole thing. And then when I would say ok today I’m not going to. I would always end up doing it anyway. So that is what I’m most afraid of. I would like to be a casual drinker, but I’ve made so much progress I’m scared that would set me off.
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And also thank you 
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Im agreeing with you I’m not sure I would be able to casually drink.
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You’re welcome and yeah that would set you off! That’s how i was i wouldn’t drink every day or binge drink but the days i did i drank till it was no more went out to get more or going to a bar or something like that just chasing that feeling and then i would take days off cuz i was beyond hungover and i would say to myself ok this time imma only have 3-4 drinks never worked or i would say imma just drink wine and i found myself drinking 2 bottles looking for that same feeling the hard liquor was giving me!! I won’t hate for you to loose ur progress but until ur like completely done done ur always gonna try to modify ur drinking! I have my moments too but i know to stay away from that first one so i just try to practice that daily
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If you have to regulate your drinking, you’re an abnormal drinker. The big book tells us that we can never safely drink alcohol.
What do you consider a glass of wine if not a relapse?
Yes ! My anxiety got sooo bad and I would call out of work sometime too. I also use to only drink wine but I would drink two big bottles too, and girl it wasn’t even like the 9% wine I would drink like the 14%. Luckily, they cravings have gotten better so it’s been easier to curb the thought. I just going to keep going
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I would just consider it a glass. But I feel like if I have to make excuses for more then that’s a problem. And since I know that would most likely be the case I’ve decide to just not do it.
Same!!! 
Just remember the reason why you started this sobriety journey! And take it one day at a time 
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If you are thinking about controlling your drinks your drinks are controlling you. For me would be the first step down the rabbit hole of drunk. “If you can’t have one have none”. Play the movie to the end before you take that first sip.
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If I have to control it, I can’t enjoy it. If I enjoy it, I can’t control it.
That is how I know I’m an alcoholic
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Congratulations on 4 months! Amazing!! Is that glass of wine worth it? Sobriety is so amazing!! Wishing you happiness always!!!
You can't say a glass of wine. It will leD to more and more. Honestly been there. I drank and control drank for 22 years. Everytime I thought I was ok I relapsed. 1 is too many and 100 never enough. Trust me. By the grace of God 1 drink will lead you back.
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An alcoholic cannot casually drink. That's the insanity in our minds. Alcohol cunning baffling and powerful. I respect the power it has over me as I almost died of this disease.
Thank you for the advice ! I didn’t have one and I’m going to keep on going
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I believe you, I always wondered if there was a way to control it. But I think it isn’t and is just best to stay away.
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And oh my smh! thank God you are here with us today.
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