I was let go by my sponsor yesterday ! How do I start over ? Anyone have conflicts?
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Why did she let you go? Did she give you a reason?
For myself i did not like AA. But thats just me
What did you not like about it ?
Yes, but I donāt want to get into details.
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I just am ambivalent about a re-start and have been really looking into my lack of true understanding of Sponsor/ sponsee relationships and relationships.
Felt too cult like. People constantly quoting the big book trying to be the smartest person in the room. Leaning on āits a diseaseā. We were told if you dont get a sponsor and work the steps you will definitely die! Ive been sober and happy for 5 years without AA.
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AA was not for me either. I prefer SMART recovery meetings. They focus on teaching you tools to help you manage your own recovery. I want to point out that addiction is classified as a disease. It physically changes brain structure and function, specifically the circuits for reward, stress, and self control. It's not just a metaphor, it's backed by neuroimaging research.
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Go to step meetings
and let your sponsor come naturally
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Hi,Ceci I over started not wanting a sponsor.To date I have been on my journey ( 3 years and 6 months ) I havenāt had nor do I desire to have a sponsor.My sincere reason is no one can stop me from doing what I want. I had to change my mind set of being and journey on this lonely road.Yes I know thereās many support systems and groups to join but the sacrifices start with me and only me.Good luck on your journey and find peace within.
An outward experience from an inward reality.
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Iām sorry that happened. Sponsors letting a sponsee go happens, and itās not always a reflection of you, sometimes itās a fit thing, personality, availability, where each of you is in your own recovery, and honestly itās better to find that out now than a year in with someone you canāt fully open up to. Keep showing up to meetings, and ask on Loosid. Always here to help
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I was going to AA for five straight days and it started to be very repetitive to the point that with someone with ADHD I just kinda got bored it was actually so depressing in the AA meetings that I wanted to drink lol
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Continue going to meetings share if thereās anybody available to sponsor youš
Do you have other women that you can talk to locally? Maybe they can share some of the experience with you.
Sure there are people who do that but not many people. I can safely say out of every meeting is at least two of people. As far as the big book itself. The big book is the collection of experiences of the trial and errors of those who started this.
That's okay keep going
Have you ever asked yourself the question. What am I not accepting today?
I don't know if it is the answer but have you tried NA at all? Booze was my main problem but I found NA more helpful I go to two AA meetings a week but the other 5 I do NA
I'd start by writing a resentment, probably.
Often at meetings they ask if anyone is willing to to be a temporary Sponsor. Good place to find one.