Does anyone else struggle with being around alcohol and people drinking? I’ve been sober for 5 years and it’s still a struggle for me to be around. It gives me anxiety and I have to fight those thoughts in my head when I’m around alcohol. It sometimes causes issues with me and my boyfriend because he feels like he has to walk on egg shells around me if he wants to have a drink. Am I the only one?
15 Likes
It's gives me the worries to..I can't be around it personally!
1 Like
All the friends I hang around with now are sober..I can't even go to most family gatherings anymore.
1 Like
Absolutely not. Everyone is different. I know for me we went to dinner and a nice private table but I still noticed the martinis at other tables. It bothered me but just know I am doing the right thing. I have 31 months Tomorrow and haven’t seen my family because of the amount of alcohol. If you go to a restaurant with them it is bottles of wine. I just honestly miss being “normal”. But I don’t want to die from alcohol. Watched it first hand and it’s brutal. Stay strong. We are all the same. 
5 Likes
I’m going to try no alcohol wine, and just sip and hold all evening. Something coming up with drinkers and I am nervous.
2 Likes
For me my 1st 5 yrs I only socialized with members of the fellowship. The dances,gathering,conventions, speaker jams etc. Once I started back socializing at family gatherings they were like we missed you.
I needed to build a strong foundation… So I said all that to say no it do not bother me anymore.
3 Likes
Has your anxiety lessened over the years of sobriety, increased, or kinda stayed the same?
1 Like
Yes and I don’t try to put myself in those situations without a plan B and someone(s) to contact.
2 Likes
I’m rarely around it anymore. I find drunk people to be very annoying now that I’m not one of them.
2 Likes
That’s amazing your lucky. I know for me it still bothers me to watch other people. I hope it stops.
2 Likes
I don’t last too long in those situations to be honest. I do whatever it takes to stay sober so I leave no matter what
1 Like
I honestly can’t imagine hanging out or around anyone doing my DOC, especially right in front of my face.. honestly drug addiction has given me the worst anxiety ever, sometimes it gets so bad I can feel how I used to back when I was actively using with the heart racing and feeling like it’d explode outta my chest, so I definitly don’t think for myself I could do that.. ur friends should 100000000% support ur recovery and even if u say it’s okay for them to do it in front of u, it’s just outta respect that shouldn’t even have to be spoken of bc they should just know that. But maybe I’m different
2 Likes
I used to be that way also. But today it is not a problem. I prefer not to be around heavy drinkers, and I certainly don’t hang out in bars. But I have no problem with people drinking around me.
I figured out that I was nervous around alcohol because I was “two stepping” like it talks about in the 12&12. Today, I live/work ALL the steps. That has made to difference.
1 Like
Me, am try to work on it but I still get anxiety but things have gotten a lot better
1 Like
Stayed the same
We can go anywhere in the world when we are in FIT SPIRITUAL CONDITION
1 Like
If you spirit is well it won’t bother you.
1 Like
Yes when it involved the person I chose to share my life with . I’m six years sober and was engaged . She drank everyday , it didn’t work out . Now I’m alone and heartbroken. She didn’t understand or care . Now I see how selfish alcoholism is being on the receiving end of it .
1 Like
I suggest some Al-anon meetings for you all that are having a tough time around people who drink
1 Like
It's the opposite for me. I have no desire to drink anymore. I'm a former alcoholic.
1 Like