Celebrate Recovery is a church based group that is different than AA. Went to one meeting and it was great 
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The fellowship is the only reason I attend my 12 step. Maybe reframe your thinking and give it a try again?
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Sober girl society
A sober girls guide
Are two groups on Instagram that make you feel a part of something!
Finding ourselves sober is a Facebook group that holds zoom groups that are free for alls!
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120 meetings I did in 3 months to stay sober. All it took was one person to say the right thing. However I would caution not going to meetings, it's the fellowship that keeps us sober. I've been sober 14 years plus, but other areas of life I neglected cause I thought if I didn't drink I was good. The core issue for drinking or using to mask feelings is what needs to be dealt with. To each their own.
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SMART recovery is a good alternative if you haven't looked into it before - it's not as regimented as AA, but there are meetings, and you can find friends and mentorship if you want that. There are also several support groups focused more on the connections than the tools/steps of recovery: Celebrate (as others have mentioned), Meetup, The Phoenix, and several more smaller groups that you can find via Facebook or Google.
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I like the I Am Sober app. It's much different and I've seen nothing like it. You can curate friends easily and follow their stories. It's a great way to meet sober people and form connections. They also have groups for different topics of interest. I am in a couple fitness groups and a music group.
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I use church and na/aa take yourself to a movie or bowling or somewhere were there's other people around that are sober that may help
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You can always try martial arts, tons of exercise and cool people.
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Hey there Ive never even thought about being sober ! Tonight I’ve had enough and I’m going to be sober . I’ve read your message and Ive read all the replies there is so much good advice here I think I’ll stay . I hope you do to too. Lonely is hard. You’ll meet people . Head up . You got this .
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I’m finding a lot of joy in doing things on my own. Going to the museum or a gallery alone can be amazing and I find myself striking up conversations with others more often than I used to.
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A friend of mine recently told me about Refuge Recovery. It’s a Buddhist path of recovery for addiction. Check it out. I hope this helps🙏
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In my experience I’ve identified my ego as the root of all my problems including addiction.
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I found that the friends I had doing drugs and drinking weren’t my friends.. I’m glad that I’m alone but not lonely.. I have my dog.. and I have my AA family.. you have to give it time. They will keep you busy if you want .. I don’t do anymore than I want to but I love my AA family.. it’s all in what you make it..!!
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I feel the same about AA, there is no right or wrong way to be sober, everyone is different and what works for some may not work for others! I went a year and 3 months doing it one way, but since I started over, I have decided I want to try out a different approach. As long as you’re honest and willing, I don’t think there’s anything wrong in finding what works best for you. I highly recommend completing the 12 steps before writing off AA though, it’s the most effective method to sobriety. (:
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I don't even think one needs to do the steps in the beginning. Just hang out in sober places with sober people (AA meetings) and make some sober connections and see what happens.
Not much annoys me more than seeing a very new, barely sober person in a room and watching them etc the "big book" thrown atbthem and being to told get into the steps immediately.
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I suppose you’re right, it can be demotivating. Fellowship was what initially kept me going back, and keeps me accountable today. I did like the foundation that the steps built for me, and I believe they played a roll in my recovery, but eventually I had to begin going my own direction because it became counter-productive to my personal recovery. Thank you for sharing 
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I see value in the steps, don't get me wrong. But the last thing anyone wants to do when they are sitting there with a hangover is rrad some shît that some dude from the 1930s wrote about being a drunk, complete with homework, haha
Just come hang out, and listen to people's stories, share your own, and make some friends, see what happens.
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A told me one time take what you need leave the rest inside the rooms hopefully this helps you
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