I have been sober 14 months and Iâm scared to death of getting lazy in my spiritual progress and relapsing. Itâs terrifying and I think that motivates me. Me group has many people with many different dates and sober time and lots have picked up silver chips again since Iâve been here. I think the most common thing is we get complacent, we think we got this. We think we are above temptation. There was a daily tip on here a while back about YET. Addiction is a disease of yet. I have never relapsed.. YET. But if I donât take care to my spiritual condition I will. We have a daily reprieve from alcohol and drugs contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition. It took me a while to really get that. I read the daily tips in this app and the 24 hours a day and the daily reflections every morning as well as Bible verses of the day and that programs my day. Then I pay attention to my thoughts and try to counter the negative with a positive any time they enter my head. In the beginning I wrote my negative thoughts and feelings and fears in a column as they came up in a notebook. Then I wrote the counter to them on the other side of the columns. Some days I could come up with any but 90/10. Itâs only 10% what happens to you and 90% how you handle it and react. Much love and thank you for sharing. So glad you are here and asking for help because as you know the first step is admitting you need helpđ„°
Iâm sorry - whatâs I miss - something special about 2 years and 1 day? Celebrate the two years. You are two years healthier, and you know you can do it. Thereâs only today to worry about.
You didnât waste those two years. You only slipped on the days you werenât sober. Those two years were a gift and can help you to see that life is possible sober and that you donât need substances. Just get through this 24 hours and worry about the next twenty four when it comes and before know it you will be past two years again
Think you might have a few issues, drink and drugs are butca symptom, look at complex trauma, root cause, Tim Fletcher on you Tube, see if that applies to you, it rings a loud bell for me.
First of all it wasn't wasted...it was and achievement. I'm not a pro but focus on the positives... You're connecting and not isolating. What worked before?
It is okay. You now have 2 years of EXPERIENCE to do it again. That is huge. Iâve done it 7-10 times. Not everyone will get it super fast-but keep doing it. In order to make it 2 years-you must have something in you to keep going and succeed-right?
I recently relapsed after about 12 years and when I went to treatment I was told by many people you never lose the clean time you already had you just build on it and think of relapse as a mistake and start over
You still have 2 sober years. 2 years healthier. You know you can do it.
I had 17 years and went back for five more years of misery. I donât think I would have made it back at all if I didnât know how much better it is sober. Even the hard stuff is faceable sober. You got this!
You haven't wasted anything and certainly not starting over. You had a lapse not a relapse. There is a huge difference. If it easier think of it this way, you had a fender bender, you didn't total your car.
Youâre okay. Pray. All is not lost.