Have had my ex on my mind all day. Abusive relationship... I keep thinking about getting a bottle and numbing it all away ughhh I'm on day 17. Send help
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Going back to addiction over an ex is like asking yourself seriously if you would literally go do something super dangerous for that person..... Like drinking seems easy at the time, but it will hook you.
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I did it. I spent another year in misery after being sober for 18 months. It led to detox and recovery last December. There is always a better, healthier way. Good luck, Alexandria! God is great and so are you!
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There's no problem drinking can't make worse. And when the drink wears off you're right back where you started from, only this time you now have 2 problems. Stay strong and you can get though it.
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That was me a months ago. Very toxic relationship towards the end. I kept thinking too much about her. Then I realized that every time I drank it just made it worse. As time went on I felt better. Do I think about her at times yea. But it’s just a thought and it passes. I humor myself with the friends I’ve gained through this process. Time heals they say and you know what I believe it now. Things get ten times better. Take it from me. A year ago I was passed out in my car every morning after hanging out till 6am cuz I didn’t want to go inside. I do not miss taking all day sometimes two days to recover.
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I was with abusive narcissist. Try to get your mind on something else
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The day will come that you won’t want to turn to alcohol. It’s come for me a couple months ago around my 3 month mark. I don’t tend to think of the junk relationship I was in and everything I lost, more so think of what caused me to lose it all. The answer is and always will be : Alcohol. Hang in there. Reach out like you have. And remember booze will be a temporary fix. Always. Take care. 
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You wanna get wasted because your ex who isn't in your life anymore was abusive? No. If you do that, your ex is STILL in your life. Move the fuuuuck on and be healthy and happy.
Hey I'm in Vegas too . I'm out east close to triangle club maybe we can be friends
Gm. Idle time leads to thoughts about the past which can lead you to drink. Keep yourself busy, go to meetings, and reach out for help. It took me a few years to get sober and now at 10 1/2 years sober life is very good. I did it one day at a time. Don't pick up no matter what and go to meetings. It will get easier. Your brain and your body need time to heal. It doesn't happen overnight but it will happen.
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Yeah, I am in the middle of a divorce from a woman that fit the definition of codependent. The word sounds benign until you have lived with one, dedicated your life to one, almost drank yourself to death denying the harm one is doing to ya. The table feels like it is turned in her direction in this divorce and it is still very painful every day that I am still giving her free rent in my head. I can not get her out of my life soon enough and the last thing I need is this feeling of desperation now that I want to stay SOBER!
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It’s going to pass your doing great keep sharing my friend! You rock
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Oh how I wanted to forget the abuse, I wanted SO badly to forget and eventually I even wanted to forgive and let go but I was SO stuck. Stuck for ten years drinking every night. Acting a fool in my life earning many regrets. I didn’t know how I could move on. I was married to him 23 years and together 26. Quite an investment of my life! Actually half of it as I was about 53 when I started drinking. I’m 64 now and 7 months sober. I went to rehab many times but this last time I received the help I really needed. They tweaked my antidepressants and anxiety meds there and one they put me on called Gabapentin was key for me. I haven’t had any obsessing over alcohol at all! I haven’t had any bouts of life’s regrets, anger, anxiety and more. I am looking forward now and not back. If I can do it you can too. Always keep trying, always search for help, always take it a day at a time. Seek all the help you need and or dont think you need. For me that also was therapy. I was diagnosed with unaddressed trauma and PTSD at that hospital and I never heard that before but deep down I knew I had tried and tried but couldn’t get well by myself. I took care of everyone and everything in the house except myself. I am so glad I kept trying and I finally found the help I so desperately needed. And you can too. All the best.
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Step work could be the answer.
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You’ve got this. My one reservation was my parents death or divorce from my wife. My wife and I split up about 8 months ago and the first thing I wanted to do was drink. Luckily, as we all know either from experience, intuition or a combination of the two. That drink or drug is only going to make things worse. Let me know how I can support you and anyone else going through something like this. I still think of my ex a lot and it can be paralyzing even knowing that ultimately us moving in separate directions is a blessing in disguise! ODAAT!!!
I was in that same repetitive loop in order to not have to feel or think about the abuse. Actually I’m still kind of in that loop, but working like heck to get better. It really sucks, and I’m sorry you’re going thru that right now. But once the numb wears off, it’s still going to be there, in your past. Good luck! If you ever need to talk, I’m here
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Keep moving forward. I relate to your story....I'm 60 years old and 10 1/2 years sober. Don't pick up and go to meetings. It gets easier, your body and mind will heal, and life will get better. I have no desire to drink alcohol but I do still have ill feelings towards my ex. I have two wonderful teenage daughters and am very close with them and I still have to co parent. I think I may seek therapy to get rid of any resentments still left.
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Agree, the solution is in working the steps of AA for all your problems
Allow yourself to feel. A bottle will only numb you for so long. Feeling is what life is about. Sobriety is a Rollercoaster of feelings at first but everything gets easier.
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Your ex is an ex for a reason! You deserve better! Focus on getting yourself healthy and, in time, you will build healthy relationships. You are ENOUGH and you are WORTH it! Stay the course and you will be afforded the opportunity to live your best life in sobriety!
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