Hello. Are there any resources for accountability partners? If I just had someone to call tonight maybe I would have been strong. Local or online is fine I just want to connect to someone that gets it.
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Have you gone to AA? There a lot of sponsors all over that could help.
Good luck!
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Hi Mark. I stepped into a meeting years ago and I kind of wigged. Everyone was so nice but I felt like I didn’t belong. I can definitely give it a go again!
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I completely understand. It's a very intimidating scene. Personally, I checked into rehab and then the courts ordered me to do a breathalyzer 3 times a day in order to not lose custody of my son.
I do know that sponsors work, and AA does offer a lot of opportunities to do sober things with sober people which is vital l, especially in early sobriety
Thanks Mark. I do think I’ll give it another shot. I wasn’t as hungry for sobriety then as I am now. I think about it constantly, this is all I want. I have kids too so I understand the fear of losing them over this.
I went in to AA and made a promise to myself that I’d go often for three months and form no opinion until then. Three years later I still go several times a week. Still sober!!
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AA isn’t for everyone ….. I tried AA a few times and I just didn’t like talking in big groups , I always preferred 1 on 1 or small groups.
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That might be part of it. The time I went I think it was around 10 people. I wasn’t comfortable sharing. Not that the people made me feel that way just I’m the same I do better 1:1
I'm 7 years sober, I'd be happy to chat with you if you find yourself battling an urge to drink. I'll send you a friend request!
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I’ve been to AA four days in arrow and I actually find it helpful. This is only my 8th day sober, but I’ve met some cool people. Hit me up if you ever want to talk.
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Happy 2days Tanya .
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When we 1st enter the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous we all feel a little out of place. After a while we realize that all the people that we are in contact with are there for the same reason that we are. They drank too much for too long and are looking for a way out.
I just posted a story entitled,
Then vs Now. You should look for it and read it.
There really is a way out and life does get better.
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What u do is go to aa ask for a new comer packet and all the woman sign it and u listen and dont share and whoever sounds relatable to u ask em to sponsor ya. Its like have n a free therapist u can call anytime. And the best part is these men and women love to help and its free. And in my experience its better then therapy. Just celebrated 1 year sober
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Congratulations that’s amazing!
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I have tried everything and felt like you did about AA and quit going. This time I took the time to find a good AA group and sponsor, and it is working out good. I only go 2-3 times a week, but it is working for me this time. Great group of new friends who are like me, would do anything for me, and hold me accountable. Great support without going overboard on it.
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Yeah I know the feeling , when I go and it’s a large group , I intend to share but then I don’t cause I’m not comfortable
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Someone shared this website on a similar post. It looks really good. Sobershedevils.com. When I first saw it, I thought it was a bad joke. Me first meeting out of rehab was 50ish people. I sat next to the moderator with out even knowing it. I felt like everyone was staring at me. I moved to the back of the room and didn’t feel much better. I left. I found a smaller meeting and zoom meetings. It took about 7 months before I ventured out of my comfort zone. I know every area doesn’t have a ton of options like we do here. 5 months later when my wife left, it was those people that kept me sober. I still don’t like huge meetings and now I know almost every one there.
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Stop making excuses. Go to meetings until you find one you like. Also, this is your life you're talking about. Survival. Surely your surviving is worth some discomfort, no? How comfortable is active addiction?
Try some women's AA groups. Look up AA She Devils, large online women's group.
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I saw that website and skipped over it. I’ll give it another look!
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Hey I have these struggles as well:( if u wanna shoot the shi#%to keep ur head straight I’m a good ear 
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