I don't know why but I'm feeling stuck! My recovery is going well...31 or 32 days clean...but I'm stuck. I have a lot of things I could be doing...cleaning my house...filing for unemployment...looking for a job etc but I just don't have any motivation...please any advice to "unstuck" myself would be amazing. I am praying about it but any outside advice is appreciated because I'm 56 years old and I'm tired of wasting my life and need help...
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Hi Ann! Congrats on 32 days sober. Be proud of yourself. I am 55 years old and 21 days sober. Are you going to any AA meetings?
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Ya I'm from a rural area and don't have many NA meetings real close so I frequent alot of A A meetings and so do others. They are very welcoming people and do not judge you for the reason are there. On the weekends I go see my daughter in Omaha and there we go to NA .
And church of course
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Well I just got up from another "nap" . I prayed again before I closed my eyes...I woke up at 4 and I've already got my dishes done and a cake in the oven! GOD is good!! I've worked nights for so long I have a hard time in the mornings. I'm going to try to keep this roll going so...bye for now lol
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No...I'm not using again...but I do seem to be all over the place...ugh one thing and one day at a time....pray for me!
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Hey Ann, thanks for sharing. I’m in the same boat. I’m on day 21 and just have no motivation. Honestly I think it’s grief. I didn’t realize that I looked forward to alcohol as much as I did, mostly bc I didn’t drink every day. So now I’m grieving the loss of a “friend” essentially. A friend that I had lots of fun with, even if she was sort of expensive to go out with and maybe didn’t totally have my best interests in mind all the time. So I’m bummed I guess that I have no future plans to see her. It’s a hard adjustment. Also I think our brains and bodies are doing a lot to repair themselves and that takes a lot of energy, whether we’re fully conscious of it or not. So I’m doing my best to trust the process because I was sober for 8 years before this and I know it does get better. Be patient and loving with yourself. Remember you’re doing the most important thing already 
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Another thing that might be helpful while you’re brain is healing itself is to carve new neural pathways by having new experiences. No matter how small. Take a walk in a new neighborhood. If nature appeals to you (very healing and helps you stay present), go for a walk or hike. Check out a new coffee shop. This will release dopamine and help you reset mentally.
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That stuck feeling hits hard in early sobriety. Don’t overthink the list, just pick one tiny thing today and knock it out. Momentum comes from little wins.
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HOLD ON !!!!
HANG IN THERE !!!!
YOU are okay, it happens to everyone early on in sobriety, it's because we're not doing what we want to do or not doing what we've always done , and that is Drink --
Any amount of time NOT drinking, whether it's a month, or a Day or an Hour, is GOOD !!!!
I work on practicing my spiritual growth, and I do that by trying to be a little kinder, nicer, understanding, a little more helpful, caring ,and listen to others -
when I do these things,I always get out of myself and outta my own head, and feel grateful that I'm not worsening things by drinking ; but bettering things by helping someone else
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Thanks so much...I love this app and you people...gives me hope for this planet...love for you all
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Exactly, baby steps. It has really worked for me.
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Hi A - I know this feeling too. Sometimes our brains shut down from overwhelm. All the tasks you wanna accomplish are just too much. Breaking them down into micro goals - clean kitchen becomes (empty dishwasher, take out trash, etc).
I swear by a todo list cause our brains get dopamine from accomplishing a goal and checking it off... No matter how small it is.
Remember the saying "how do you eat and elephant one bite at a time". Show yourself grace and set realalistic goals not a 50 point list. I think it's common in early sobriety to feel like we need to "catch up" buttoo much too fast is a recipe for guilt, shame, relapse. So be kind and show yourself grace 
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Hi Ann, congratulations on your sober journey, im 56 as well and it's easy for me to feel overwhelmed if I think of everything I need/should be doing. I heard someone share in a meeting that they practice being still/meditate.....breathe and let the answers come. It's been working for me. I try and remember, to take it one day at a time. And to practice having trust and faith. Have a great day!!!!!
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Thanks David...I will give it a try
Each day do just one thing
Today -apply for unemployment
Tomorrow- do your laundry
Next day - clean the kitchen
Make a list. Each day just accomplish one thing. Your motivation will return give yourself a break.
Do you have a sponsor? Hold yourself accountable. Call her everyday or your daughter and tell her the one thing you accomplished
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Thanks Nancy! I will give this a try!
The voice that is telling you that you are lazy, look at all the things you should be doing, etc etc is all a lie. If someone has a broken arm they have to take time to heal. Give yourself grace and time to heal from this too.
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Thanks to you all for the good advice...I'm working on being patient but ... patience is a new word for me...day by day...thanks again...you guys have no idea how much you are appreciated...
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Do any of you ladies find a female sponsor yet?