I put up boundaries with my ex who was very abusive. He didn’t like that. I blocked him so he’s emailing me the most horrible messages. Tearing down my character, my body and my looks. I’m on day 8 of sobriety and he wants to sabotage me. I’m going to cry but I’m not going to drink.
Oh and he’s an addict and still using. He hates that I’m getting out of the depths of helll I went to with him.
Fuc! That, let's get his number and over load his phone. No need to cry over spoiled milk. You got this.
That sounds so tempting 
Ugh sorry girl. Misery loves company don't let him get to you <3
Yo drawing boundaries means that you got to block them on all fronts.
You can block email addresses.
Giving any outlet of contact is like keeping a number to one of your drug dealers or hanging out in the bar that you would drink at, expecting sobriety the last.
I don't know if you're in a situation to go somewhere else for a couple weeks like a friend's house especially a sober friends house. Turn off your phone on the computer etc and just read go for walks watch a bunch of movies get a part-time job and your friends area.
I had to check into an inpatient rehab to get away from the things of my past because there was no way I was going to have space or freedom to ignore all those things especially my crazy ex and all my drug dealing friends if I stayed at home.
I wish you the best. This is not going to be easy.
Reach out if you need to vent.
Thank you. I blocked but it still goes to slam and I’m not strong enough to ignore it. I have a job but I’m off for another 2 weeks. I go to multiple meetings everyday and I did move right before I started my sobriety. I’m keeping busy. Doing everything I can but he’s being so harsh and I’m struggling to not let it get to me
He’s acting like a big baby! Worse yet, it is abusive. In AA we talk about powerlessness and power. In this case you are completely powerless over this maniac. You could try and overthink how you can change his behavior, but ultimately you have no control. It’s easier in this case to “surrender” to this fact. Basically accept it, and let the dumb a$s whine. In turn you have taken your power back. This is really going to pee him off lol. The only thing you can change is you and your attitude. So, tell your alcoholic obsessive mind to take the day off from trying to think of ways to control the situation. Tell your mind that today you are not in control of this 
, and you are choosing to let your higher power (or whatever other power that’s not you) handle this nonsense. Use your program to help you. The program helps you with the knowledge to know the difference. So think of the serenity prayer. Say it nice and slow. Repeat as often as necessary. As for the nasty things he’s saying, I’m sorry it hurts. However, if you look at things rationally, you are perfectly ok just the way you are. This a great opportunity to learn and grow. You have a choice today! You should be very grateful! You’re sober, and you’re sharing and working on the solution! Great job 
❤🩹
He’s very abusive and controlling. He has physically, mentally and verbally abused me for a year and a half. Had to get a restraining order once but that was laughable to him. I’m trying to stay away, look away... but this guy is relentless and he knows how to work me. That’s his goal - work me hard enough until he gets the power back
Definitely a difficult situation. Nobody said this was going to be easy. He’s not going to respect your boundaries. He’s probably used to you giving in. Today you are different. You have chosen a new path. Hold true to your boundaries and trust (have faith) that the universe has your back. If you have to get a restraining order, then do it. You don’t have to be filled with guilt over making yourself top priority. Remember, our alcoholic minds have been playing this same tape over and over again which keeps us sick. Today we have a choice to not be controlled by these self destructive thoughts. Yes they are still there and screaming at you, but you now know that you don’t have to listen. It’s scary cuz you don’t know another way. That’s where faith comes in. Today it may have to blind faith. I’d much rather trust blind faith than my old thinking that has continually messed up my life. Stay strong.
I'm sorry for what your going thru. I can only imagine.. Sounds like your trying everything as possible to keep him away.Just don't give in .. I know easier said than done..But you got this , stay strong..
Hey girl, sorry to hear, this is really hard! But also, f*** yeah for a week sober!! I had a similar situation and had to block him on every possible way he could contact me, and he found ALL the ways (check your WhatsApp, other work emails, all social, etc.). Do what you need to do to work on letting go of him and try not to attach to the things he is saying. That is his addiction and sickness talking and it has nothing to do with who you are. Your addiction might also be responding by saying you wan to make things right, going over what you could’ve done differently, or saying you need to use to not feel this way, but for me telling myself that’s my addiction was really helpful. Our minds tell us all kinds of crazy stuff but we don’t have to take that as truth. Maybe write a list of things you love about yourself to remind yourself of how amazing you are or reach out to a close friend. I also wrote out a letter to my ex that I never intended in giving him but it helped me get rid of everything that was trapped in me and kept me going back so I could get rid of it. Mine was all over the place with good things, bad things, and every emotion, but it really helped me get out what I needed. And if I ever think about going back or start feeling bad, I can read it and remind myself why this wasn’t good for me. I also just started going to Al-anon and double winners meetings (Al-anon and AA) because dealing with another person’s addiction is hard but also not at all your responsibility. You are doing an amazing thing for yourself getting sober and as you get more time you’ll start building such an amazing life and see how much more you deserve, because you do. But you gotta put your sobriety first to be able to get there. I’m still early in but I feel it more and more each day. Feel free to message me anytime and know you’re not alone!
So on point, and with past experiences to boot! I hope you are listening Aimee. Read Alyssa’s back a few times and let the experience, strength, and hope sink in. We all got your back. We are stronger together!
Get a restraining order and make it on a legal record that this is happening - may set him off more but at least maybe he’ll get the point and be the final detachment you need
Time and distance will solve it
Call the cops. There are annoyance and harassment laws especially if you already have a restraining order if he trying to contact he's already in violation of it. Put as much distance between you and him as possible. Stay strong
I know you said he didn’t respect a restraining order before but get another one. Not because it’ll keep him away but because it’s important to your case. Document everything. Call the police. File reports. Men like this only escalate and resort to real, often fatal, violence. Change up your routine, research your local protection laws, become aware of safe houses near you and be sure you can get to them if needed. Protect yourself and put him on the cops radar. Be strong, we’re all here for you 
I deal with the same stuff.. it gets easier each day. I can even sometimes. So ridiculous. The pain goes away with your sobriety getting stronger. He’s weak, you are not! Keep your head up and stay focused on you. Sobriety is number one. You’re doing great. Reach out anytime!
File a restraining order! You don’t need that you are trying to better yourself!
Block his email too, use a product called block sender - it has the ability to completely block so that the emails will never touch your inbox or spam folder… if you want you can opt in to have it send an auto message letting him know you are no longer receiving his emails. There are also options to save the emails in a file for record. I used it to block a friends ex for her. Similar situation he kept making different accounts to email her threats and slander. The best thing we ever did was block him completely. She was able to focus on herself and healing after leaving the toxic guy behind.
Keep your head up stay strong 