How do you all continue to find reasons to exist if you're all alone in the world. I don't have family or friends or a job. Just a couple pups. I could just disappear and it would make no difference. No one would even notice. How do we cope with such irrelevance. I need help., fast.
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1st, Sending you hugs! 2nd, I was where you are... until I started going to meetings and not only found my sober community...but also my FAMILY, the place where I am welcome, accepted for who I am (not what I've done) and truly LOVED! I SEE YOU CARMEN... YOU ARE LOVED & YOU MATTER TO ME AND THE REST OF US HERE!!! Find a meeting if you can-
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Hi Carmen, alcohol and poor choices have lead to broken friendships and relationships in my life. Getting sober gives us a chance to change our life for the better. My advice to you would be to take small steps and acknowledge small victories. AA meeting are a great way to connect with others, as for having a job I don’t know the backstory but I’d say if you have any strong hobbies or interests, continue to pursue those and it may lead to something more beneficial; providing a sense of purpose in your life. Wish you and the pups all the best.
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Carmen, you can do this. Your pups need you and you need you.Take good care
Jodi
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Meetings. Getting plugged into the love from those meetings with like minded individuals. You’ll get rid of those whoas whoas me. Works. Friends and communities aren’t going to come to you. You need to make the effort to get outside yourself and find that new you.
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Hi Carmen! I too have felt this way in my earlier stages of sobriety. I felt alone without having the alcohol or substances in my system. Though once the brain fog from all those things had slowly disappeared , I was able to prioritize myself and be grateful for what it is i have and dwell on what I have lost or don't have. This too shall pass, and please be sure to remind yourself about this. You have your pups who need you and you also have yourself. Give yourself credit for wanting a life to live and not just exist by choosing to get sober. You have this platform to be able to reach out to a community with insight and wisdom to help you through this process. Carmen takes care of yourself and God bless.
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What K Brad said. Go to meetings. All the friends you need are there. Please go. You don't have to do this alone.
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Carmen, sending you love & light w warm hugs. Everyone in this thread cares and shows me that there are great people in the world.
My mom taught me to have love and friends, I must be loving and a good friend first. Ya we experienced some hurt, but we do find real love if we continue doing our part (unconditionally).
Please go to as many meetings as possible and participate, and communicate. You’ll surely find more love and peace.
I'm sober 6 years. No one seems to notice whether I'm at meetings or not...it makes no difference.
No one seems to notice me at all.
I agree, and I did that as well as local community meetups, haven't connected with anyone, just got kicked out of a self help book club, literally no one would know if I disappeared FACTS not whoa is me.
Hi Carmen,
I too have felt what you describe, especially in early sobriety. What was recommended to me that ultimately worked, was learning to get out of “self”. For me, the easiest way to do this was being of service to others. Find a home group and get involved. Take a service position that will give people an opportunity to get to know you. Get it the habit of regularly calling others to find out how “they” are doing. If you do this, you will find that both your feelings and outlook on life will improve. And remember, your never alone and you only need to do this program one day at a time.
By being of service to others. If we have no family or friends, we have ample time to be of service to others in our community. I can think of no greater purpose.
I volunteer 15-20hrs a week in community service. I'm a lost soul.
Gotcha, well that’s fantastic. I’m sure the folks you volunteer with appreciate what you’re doing. I’m with Aime the first comment you got. AA meetings is where I found camaraderie.
As someone forced into the southern Baptist church as a kid, Jesus is definitely not the answer. Maybe for you, but not for me. Jesus hates me, my family told me so.
I don't have family now. They rejected me, I don't do Jesus or Christian music for that reason. Christians thrive on hate of others that dont follow their rules. is this a faith-based sober site? I'm gone if it is.
Its all going to be ok . I had to search to find purpose and i did . I still have plenty of life but grateful for what i have
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Thanks for sharing! We want to hear more…. We all have felt this way at one time or another! Congratulations! You are one
of us!
There are people that love you that you don’t even know about