How do you get over the envious feeling of those

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#1

How do you get over the envious feeling of those that are able to drink?

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#2

Time….For me, I needed to work my program a while and accept fully I would never be able drink again. Once I came to terms, and realized I didn’t need the booze to have fun, be accepted, be a part of the crowd, I was at peace with it. And to be honest I enjoy my time more without it. There are times I miss sitting around a fire sipping bourbon, or having a beer with the boys, but those feelings are fleeting. Good luck, I hope you find the peace you deserve.

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#3

I actually feel sorry for them. The freedom I have found from being sober is better than drinking.

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#4

I avoided situations where I felt that way.

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#5

Surrender we can’t blame others for our illness. Surrounded by people who truly want success for you and start a tradition with them. One day a week no alcohol lunch, breakfast etc. You can do it. I took a Vivitol shot and it takes away the cravings? Vivitrolsafty. Com 888-235-8008.

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#7

Are they really “able” to drink though? Don’t worry about them and focus on yourself. That’s how you’ll get over the feeling.

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#8

I don’t compare myself to anyone else. Whether it’s drinking, work, hobbies, whatever. I focus on myself and what I can do to improve my own life.

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#9

I remind myself what a hangover feels like.

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#10

This is a great recovery question. Before I found recovery, I chased trying to be a normal drinker to near insanity. Acceptance was ultimately what did it for me. I just came to a point where I fully accepted I’m alcoholic and my brain is different than others, I’m happy for them and glad they can enjoy alcohol responsibly and sanely. I enjoy my sober life. Someday another drinker that is thinking they are not a normal drinker will look at you and wonder :thought_balloon: how you can be sober and still enjoy your life?

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#11

You have a better time than they do being sober. For me that’s spiritual and relational.

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#12

I have come to loath most people. They’re terribly disappointing, and banal. If they “need booze” to “have fun” just remember they have got to be the most miserable people alive. I know i was!

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#13

I don't have envy for those people. If it works for them, great. But it didn't work for me. And the thought of waking up never having to feel like some of those people feel every weekend is a gift that keeps on giving. If you're resenting the fact that you never mastered moderation then your focus may be in the wrong place. Once you view your ability to enjoy life sober as a gift, then there'll be no resentment towards others for being able to drink. We're all hardwired differently - and God knows I tried for years to master moderation and the binge cycle won literally every time. Over time you'll realize that there's nothing to resent. Some of the people you're referring to may actually resent the fact that you've mastered the discipline to stay sober. Do look at it that way and start finding things to do that are meaningful to you.

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#14

Most the people I know who drink are alcoholics but don’t yet realize it.

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#15

I think you already allowed to miss alcohol and never want it in your life. Just tell yourself you’re allergic to alcohol, it makes you break out in handcuffs. Lol.
Honestly though, it takes time.

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#16

People are different. It's not your fault. People without addiction can drink 1 beer and they're fine, but people with addiction have brains that don't get satisfied with one drink. You're not missing out on anything though. I have to keep reminding myself there is absolutely no benefits to alcohol. Alcohol is a depressant that is high in calories, kills brain cells, increases blood pressure and induces nausea and vomiting. You're not missing out on anything. Sometimes, I'll drink non alcoholic beer or Kombucha just because I like the taste.

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#17

We have a few sayings in the AA fellowship, one of them is.
“Live and let live”
I suggest you work the steps on why you feel that way.

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#18

Try a little booklet called " Alan carrs illustrated easy way to stop drinking" takes about a half hr to read and it helps deprogram our brain from believing we enjoy alcohol - I read it over and over and over for months- then I stopped drinking and no envy
Hugs

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#19

This was really tough for me! I mean really, really tough! The biggest thing for me is fellowshipping honestly and I am really lucky right now I’m still in a bubble in Treatment in IOP. Once I get out I will have to continue to work the program and stay in contact with other alcoholics after all we are the only ones who truly get each other! I hope this helps best of luck to you :hugs:

#20

Honestly I never felt envious. To me it was just a choice of theirs. Like not being able to control having an allergy to something. It wasn’t worth the energy of what if. I still work in hospitality and am around it a lot. To me I know I’m better and alive from not having it but to each their own.

#21

For me I just have to remind myself that I'm not like everyone else that I suffer from the disease of addiction