I am 32 and the only AA meeting I can get to is only 60+ aged men. I used to feel like they thought badly of me. But I kept going and realized the problem wasn't them, it was my own negative thoughts. Now those people are my second family it just took time.
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I used to think that, I realized that a lot of that was untrue and I was creating it in my head. I would encourage you to stick around and share honestly about what you are going through. Give people a chance to get to know you, the thing is we go in the rooms thinking only about ourselves. The truth is the more you share the better chance you have of saying something someone else is going through. Thatās the real point of the rooms, we all help each other. I wasnāt there but I bet most of the people in there were not thinking like that at all, they were to busy thinking about their stuff. We are a selfish and self centered lot lol. There are other recovery options out there too, but no matter where you go the solution is an inside job, we have to fix us, we canāt fix the world around us.
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There are many non believers that go to CR. Not everyone is a Christian. Are most yes. But I'm just saying check it out or watch a YouTube testimony. Either way I hope you find the group your looking for. Not trying to force my way of fellowship or recovery ect on you. Just wanted to let you know it's out there.
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When the spiritual malady is overcome we straighten out mentally and physically.
I tried to figure it out all on my own. Got me nowhere. So what does one do when nothing else works? I tired something different, something new, and actually gave it my all. 
in but I had a little resistance. Once I began to see that AA was working in other peopleās lives, I began to do more of the work. Iām the educational variety. Need to know all about it before I can start or must see the results first, ha! Well as the results started working in my favor the more I did the work that was suggested.
Iām no doctor. I was on medication for the first year of sobriety. Helped me stay the course as I was going through a divorce, loss of home, depression and anxiety. I found my own concentration of God. I called it GUS. Great Universal Spirit. Did this for about 13-14 months. Then had a spiritual experience that lead me to stop trying to reinvent the wheel and I began to call my HP, God. Started reading scripture and then found myself talking to a man who was a painter on a job site I was working at, who happens to be a practicing Christian. Next thing you know Iām going to church seeking what they offer and listening to the word of God. Today I continue to read scripture and because of it, Iām able to have an open mind about the possibilities of all things including religion. Iām a spiritual being who has had a spiritual awakening. Iām no longer living in fear, resentments, shame, or guilt. My action speak louder than words. Iām calm and collected when it comes to just being in the moment.
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That is a common feeling. But it's coming from you, not them. None of those people think you're dumb, they have all been where you are right now.
If anything, they're jealous they didn't get sober at 26 (maybe jealous isn't the right word, but wistful?) Or maybe they're thinking of their first meetings and know the pain you are in.
Me, when I meet people who are in recovery in their 20s, I think they are lucky to be on a journey to not waste their 30s and 40s like I did. And compassion for how much pain they are in and hope for the better future.
Peace and grace. It has to start within you.
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Your feelings are completely valid and no need to feel like you have to explain yourself. Feeling bitter isnāt wrong or anything. Iām glad you are here too. 
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You're fine. Unless your meeting was full of Nobel Prize winners none of them were smarter than you. Don't worry about anything but living your best alcohol or drug free life (whatever your case may be). You got this.
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Here's the thing... O may be wrong but I'll go ahead and assume, that you don't read minds. That said, don't put your own insecurities on others. It could just be that they are a bit thrown off, as you are new yet still very open and actively involved. Believe it or not, but that is not usually the norm.
It's mind over matter. If you perceive judgement and negativity you will almost certainly have a negative effect experience.
I think that before giving up on the group you should go there just one time with an absolute positive mind frame, trying your best to maintain that positivity throughout the session. I would be interested to know if that made a difference or not.
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Vibes are a lie! Itās all in your head. Iām the same way! I overthink situations and assume. Donāt go off of āVibesā. Try to focus on why youāre there. And thatās it 
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Give Refuge Recovery try.
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Keep going to AA if youāre comfortable there and try other NA groups. Just as individuals all come to 12 step differently we each have our own experiences and own understanding of God. Your perception is your perception. That said if I have a run in with another member I ask God to bless them change me
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Definitely ck it out. !
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Make sure what get on is non narcotic.
I was addicted to prescriptions.
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Prescriptions can be narcotics. Iāve also been addicted/abused several prescription drugs, both prescribed and not prescribed. Pretty much anything I could find with value to them. I have a lot of experience with them unfortunately.
I tried refuge but could never āgetā the meditation part of it.
I went in to both meetings with a positive mindset each night. I was feeling really good all day beforehand on the 2nd day meeting, then after the meeting it just frustrated me as it seemed as though I was not wanted there
Ppl always weird me out. Stinking thinking or it's all about me, me,me.
This comment makes the most sense to me, that they are thrown off a bit as the norm for a newcomer is that they prefer to sit quietly. Thank you for your input. Iām going to try a different city meeting tonight, there is a college nearby. So Iām hoping to see more people around my age that I can connect with. I know the old timers are also beneficial as they have wisdom. The last meeting just wasnāt for me I guess
I definitely do the same thing, and overthink and assume. I will take your advice and focus on why Iām there and thatās it
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Hey man, knock it off with the scripture crĆ p. He isn't interested.
Please don't be one of those "you'll eventually get the god thing" guys. Your god isn't for everyone.
I mean this as respectful as possible.
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