I am feeling so frustrated. After almost 2 months of

I am feeling so frustrated. After almost 2 months of sobriety I got drunk again. I stopped, came back on track, started 90x90 , already visited 2 meetings.

I know from other people that the first year is the hardest one, but how, how I can go through that first year snd not slipping away.
I worked on steps, I worked on program, I didn’t visit meetings often last month because I was really busy with my kids.
Maybe that was a reason.
I don’t know.
Feeling really disappointed of myself.

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Hang in there, Jane. Stay close with your sober team.

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At his point the best thing is to move forward. You’re making progress in your recovery journey. You stayed sober a few months. You’re learning what works and what doesn’t work. Meetings can be a huge help. They help me a lot. Maybe you just drifted away too far. Either way, it’s ODAAT. While continuous sobriety is certainly a good thing, it’s not everything. You can learn a lot from a slip. Keep growing and learning

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Thanks Taylor

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Without sobriety my whole life is a huge mess

The fact that you keep is trying is what’s important! Keep up the hard work :sunglasses:

Don’t beat yourself up too much. Slips happen.
For me, it wasn’t just working steps, going to meetings, talking to sober people. I had to really look inside and figure out what was the reason for drinking. With therapy, meds and actually changing my actions and REACTIONS to situations, I was final able to stay sober. Keep doing the next right thing…

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Very few people including myself get it on the the first attempt.

Be kind to yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s part of the journey. You’ve got this :heart:

You didn’t get that proficient in yoga in just a few months. I’m sure you couldn’t hold those poses without falling when you first began. But you kept getting back up and practicing. You didn’t lose all of the flexibility and strength when you fell. You picked up right where you left off. Recovery can be like that too. You got this

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Keep going. It's not back to zero :slight_smile:

Don’t beat yourself up queen, cuz I know what you’re going through, I relapsed after being clean for 4 years, I’ve been clean 284 days today it’s hard but everything is worth it, STAY STRONG :muscle:t4::heart:

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May I ask what was the last step you completed?
The 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous were written in such a fashion to be completed in 4/ 1 hour sessions. Most people today are not aware of this.

The promises that you hear read at AA meetings are promises that come true somewhere in the middle of Step number nine, which is the amends step.

If we're on a fourth step for example and we're poking around on it we're not really going to feel anything but a bunch of heartache because of everything that we are bringing back to the surface without any alcohol to suppress our feelings.

Anyone that I have ever taken through the steps in this fashion has never gone back out and relapsed.

They have had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps.

Your back on track. That’s the most important thing! I believe in you, fight the good fight. :heart::pray:

it was important for me to remember that to get and stay sober you gotta give. unity is meeting, recovery is the 12 steps, and SERVICE can be anything. as a newcomer i was told to share at every meeting. just by sharing your story here, and any meeting you go to, you’re helping us by reminding us of how things were and how things are. you can do this! see how you can be helpful in your meetings, service commitments were my lifeblood early recovery!

Hey you can sit in your sorrow or you can get up and move forward those are your options. Give up or get up! Gods got this. Learn from what happened and move
Forward. Sitting in your shame and disappointment won’t get you anywhere but in a bar with a bottle. Step up and move forward

Also be grateful you’re alive and have another chance here

Don’t beat yourself up. Drunks drink. That’s what we do. It’s not easy to get and stay sober. It takes work. Good you’ve gone to a few meetings. Listen, relate, don’t compare. If you can relate, you’re prob in the right place…

Absolutely. I completed step 8. We started step 9, but haven’t complete that step. And relapse

It's ok. You're back. All we can worry about is today right so youre just as sober as all of us. Use your recovery family. Lean on us. That's what we are here for. None of us can do this alone

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