I can get completely sober until I get this abusive man out of my life.
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Please get this abusive man out of your life.
Are you safe?
Can you get away from this toxicity?
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Once you get sober, no one can take away your sobriety but you.
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Yea I can get away but I love him.
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I’m trying
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I feel like it’s another arm of addiction
The only thing we have to change to get sober and live a peaceful, happy life is… everything
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Unfortunately for me until I accepted that I need to take care of me first nothing that needed to be removed from my life was ever removed
I thought getting sober would correct everything and it didn't , that was just the beginning , drugs and alcohol are just a symptom of a much bigger problem , my disease made me believe love felt like pain and looked like chaos , I had to go back to basics and relearn my mind is out to destroy me, if I liked it in active use and still like it in sobriety then my sponsor and support group need to be heavily involved in my decision making , that helped me determine weather or not I was still running on self will or if I was still sick and had a distorted view on reality
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Go to a safe house if you have to. You must protect yourself at all costs. I will pray for your safety 
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Maybe you can look at it as a one day at a time thing. For today remove yourself from the situation. Don’t overthink about what will happen next. Just get yourself sober. Change the course of your life and break the unhealthy habits. Maybe you can rebuild the relationship back again? Maybe you won’t want to? Maybe it will be a wake up call for him to get help. We really don’t know, and you only have control over your actions. Either way, you don’t have to figure this all out at once. The first action is to remove yourself and get sober for you
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You CAN get completely sober if YOU want to. Our sobriety is not contingent upon other people. Own it!
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I had an emotionally abusive, non working succubus in my life. I didn't even consider sobriety until she was gone. HeII, I didn't even realize I had a drinking problem until then.
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There is help with letting go from women who have experienced trauma similar to what you described. I understand the pain and feeling that you love him, both are very real to you that’s why I recommend the experts who have worked through this. Support, understanding and caring compassion is the key.
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Yes this is where I am.
Me too. And I stayed sober because it was all for me. Nothing to do with him.
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We have to. If we don't, we make bad situations worse.
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Hang in there Susan. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Stay safe!!
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Please get out!!! Take care of you!!!
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Any developments regarding leaving, Susan?
I am not relaying that so is easy while you specifically wrote “ this abusive man “ and while I could never know another’s situation…an abusive man is not going to aid in any way towards keeping sobriety going…also, just because we love people does not mean we need to be with them…you typed the word “ abusive “ and that is major cause for significant concern.
Checking in to see how you are doing right now, Susan.
What Sheena wrote…