I got pregnant. Thats how and why i got clean. Its been over two years but I'm constantly feeling like i didn't do the work like other addicts did. I got pregnant. I got clean for him. Not myself. I plan to stop nursing wgen he turns two in 3 months. Im scared that qhen my body is my own again ill make poor choices. Is it normal to be scared to relapse? Will it actually help to keep me sober? Id hate myself if i relapsed. And can't imagine it being a reality. The closer i get the more i think about it. I feel like a horrible person.
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How about attending meetings?
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I do love meetings. But the consensus is usually that relapse is apart of recovery. Which is NOT what I want to experience. I really wish it wasn't so normalized because the addict perks up thinking "oh it's okay as long as I stop again"... If that makes sense?
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Hey momma! I stopped breast feeding a few months back and I had the same fears. I got through by telling myself it is just as important to stay clean for him when it doesnt affect him physically anymore. You might not know it but you already did it for yourself! AND your reaching out for support. You are doing all the right things! Just take it day by day. Even minute by minute if you have to.
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Thank you for the reassurance. I really appreciate it.
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No matter how you got there your here you have something beautiful and thats a plus you have all this time to work on yourself you will be great one day at a time it’s healthy to have fear find a group a group that fits what is going in your life your gonna make it through ups and down keep going your gonna be a great mom​:blush:
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Ash, congrats on all fronts. Lean into the sober community and stay very safe and do your program. Get a sponsor and do the steps. You’ll be so glad you did! You deserve to be free from your addiction and happy. Plus your baby boy deserves a liberated and loving mom.
I sponsor over the phone if you’re interested. Or I’m here to just talk if you want.
Stay blessed🙏
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So you decided to live for your child. Most people are willing to die for them. Not live for them. So if you relapse? You are setting them up to do the same thing in a generational cycle.
That's a scary thought, isn't it. It's what got me. My daughter told me she had zero hope for the future.
So I get it.
You are not fake. You shouldn't compare your success to someone else's. Because that's theirs, and yours is your own.
So go to the rooms. Work a program. Watch the newcomers come in with their busted lives. So you remember your own. Then during this, you can share your strength, hope, and experience so they can do what you have done.
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Relapse is not part of recovery. It is the opposite of recovery.
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The journey can feel overwhelming at times. It really is one day at time. Temptation is always around but if we focus on today tomorrow sorts itself out. Meetings help so does meditation. Don't sell yourself short you did a great job getting sober and chose to stick with it that's the goal to a more virtuous lifestyle. Keep your head up you got this.
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Hey Ash, I think the main thing is to realize that you don't want that poison in your body anyway, so there's nothing to miss and no reason to use. Why would we?
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All it takes is making the same mistake to lose her. Meetings. Sponsor. Stepwork. I was sober 2.5 years, I relapsed two and half weeks and lost my daughter. She was 2 months old...I am fighting to get her back, and it's been three months. Trust me, you don't want to do it to her, or yourself. In rehab I learned that it doesn't matter what got you sober...you can keep you sober. Right now, you have to do the work because you want to stay sober.
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When you're taking care of yourself and your recovery gets habitual, you won't think of relapsing so much. Be good to you.
Your not fake some people can do it and not go back just keep moving forward you didnt do anything wrong God blessed you
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Also don't think that way that you will go back you are ready set that now fight it don't go back
Pray, go to meetings, don't lose the child to addiction.
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Message me in private.
You're not a fake. You have a disease that you are still battling and may need more professional help then you thought. I do too. I am going to rehab this Wednesday actually.
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You are not a fake, and you are not a horrible person. Getting sober for your child doesn’t make your recovery any less real, it just means love pulled you out when you couldn’t do it for yourself. Fear of relapse is normal, but it doesn’t mean you’re doomed. You’ve already proven your strength by staying sober for two years. Keep leaning into that. You’re not alone in this.
Why do you feel like that?