I just can get a grip on this sobriety thing

Recovery
#1

I just can’t get a grip on this sobriety thing. I’m divorced w 3 daughters. I love them deeply and just wish I could conquer this disease. God has given me so many chances. Either I’m so good or so darn bad. Lord help me🙏

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#2

I can relate. I got so good at hiding my disease that now I have a hard time believing myself. I believe my own lies. I don't have an answer. I am getting sober again now for myself instead of others.

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#3

Thanks Micheal. Yeah the lies compound for me. I wake up telling myself try not to lie today. I want my old life back happy, hardworking dad. I need to reach out to a support group because I cannot do this on my own. I don’t like meetings I just want to pick up the phone when I get the urge to drink

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#4

I am also a hard working Dad. I do not do meetings. I have found local sober people that share the same past as me. Don't tell yourself not to anything at this point. Just go hour by hour.

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#5

I am here right now. No judgement. Tell me or ask me whatever you want.

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#6

Thanks Mike. Conversation means a lot to me.

#7

I am here what do you have...

#8

Just need to make it sober one more day :pray:

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#9

Have you ever worked a program of recovery?

#10

Never Brian

#11

It’s key to a healthy happy and lengthy sobriety, I suggest getting to a program of your choice (mine is AA) and go often. I’d also suggest not to form any opinion until three months. If by then your not seeing something change, then move on to another program. We need support and can’t do it on sheer will power. If I can do it so can you! 3 years 4 months and still am very active in my program of recovery. My best piece of advice is stop doing the same things over and over expecting a different result. It takes work but there is a wonderful life waiting for you

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#12

I love this Brian. Thank you very much for the kind words. Means a lot- Helps too

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#13

Can I ask you a question?

#14

Please do

#15

Are you doing this for you right now? Are you done?

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#16

Michael I don’t know what I’m doing I just don’t want to continue down this path. I live in a town where everyone and their mother drinks.

#17

Honest answer. I came from an Irish Catholic neighborhood. My Dad was a Bartender and Bouncer at a neighborhood bar. I could change a keg before I could drive. Walking into bars in my neighborhood was acceptable when I was 16. I was a professional drinker by 18. I might be in the hall of Fame. I stopped for 19 years. One day , I had a horrible day and walked into a shitty dive bar. One shot and 12 hours later I was in a time machine back 19 years. The social part of drinking is half the disease.

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#18

The Lord isn't helping you. How many times do you need to fail before you change your strategy? You need to get to meetings and get real help. Stop relying on supernatural forces and get in there and meet some real life people with real life experiences that you can relate to.

Get to the choppa, if you want to live.

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#19

Nando, this sobriety stuff is simple, but not easy. Just don’t drink or do drugs, one day at a time and go to meetings. Remember meeting makers, make it.

I’m not a big fan of this on line stuff. It’s better than nothing but in person meetings are much better.

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#20

Thank you Carl. I really appreciate everyone’s support I guess getting back on this app is the start to me changing my old dog ways. :pray:

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