i’m tired of being tired. bored. lonely even tho i’m not alone. the uncertainty of my housing situation. i can’t deal with it. i just want a stable home is that so much to ask?
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It’s not too much to ask but it depends on your situation?
I hear you. What makes you feel alone and what would you like to feel less alone? Have you discussed with you're partner? What is the house situation. If it is rocky come up with a plan and work it, even if its not obtainable right now having your sights on it may subconsciously boost you. Biggest thing is let it out and stop bottling it and if no one listens then you have life choices to make.
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Restless irritable and discontent is a recipe for disaster. If you have big book 4th edition page 417.
If we are Restless or irritable or discontent there is something in us we are not happy with. Something that is not in harmony with our needs or God's will. Figure out what it is. Can you change it? If yes? Change it. If no? Accept it and read 417 again.
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That includes housing situation. As John said it maybe be something you need to discuss. That could be all the change that is needed. Open honesty. It maybe a situation that can't be changed now. That doesn't mean change isn't possible down the road.
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I get it
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Understandable. If you're in a position to do so, I'd highly recommend getting a therapist. Also, it's easier said than done, but try to find activities that give you enjoyment and bring you peace. You owe it to yourself to live a good, full life. As for the housing, I don't have good advice, just commiseration. It's hard. Rent is expensive and owning is almost impossible without help depending where you live. No, it's not too much to ask, but it's unfortunately all too common.
Please talk to me. Let us discuss how I can be on f help to you. Thanks
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I understand.. I live next door to my sister and brother.. they’re both addicts and my brother an alcoholic too.. I just received my 3 year chip tonight at AA.. even tho I don’t want to use it’s still negativity all around me that I don’t need or want.. I live on Social Security and it’s tough making ends meet as it is.. I know I need and want to move but so far I haven’t found anything I can afford.. so my living situation is bad.. and always up in the air..!!
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Zero in on local resources available ASAP.
If struggling with short-term sobriety and stress environment, consider female friendly sober living homes in shared space at reduced cost. I have seen many such establishments in many regions.
What state and nearest major city are you in?
i couldn’t leave my partner we’ve been together and living together for eight years. idk what to do
i have a therapist… i’m he find a hard time finding anything i like. i used to love drawing and painting and now it feels like a chore. my favorite music is drug related
thanks to all of you. my housing situation is i live out of an airbnb right now we had an agreement to stay until april now he said we have to leave thanksgiving weekend. i don’t have a job rn so i can’t rent an apartment even tho i have savings. i found another airbnb we’re going to look at next week but from the pics the bed isn’t even big enough for two people
i don’t know what’s making me feel alone. i commented below mt housing situation basically living out of an airbnb i was agreed upon to have until april and host went back on his deal and wants us gone thanksgiving weekend. we have no where to go. i might’ve found a place but it’s a crappy place
I so understand how you feel. I feel I have been that way forever. If you need to talk message me.
If you are bored with your life, change it. I don't know your personal circumstances regarding your relationship. Whether you have a husband, boyfriend or just a roommate. I only know that today is the first day of the rest of your life and what you do with it is up to you.
If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you always gotten.
The person who has the most to do with what happens to you in your life, is YOU.
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Hi Luna, I'm extremely lonely so I know how you feel..I also know my loneliness can be a recipe for disaster that's why I'm talking about it...I think it's cool that you shared your feelings
No, that's not too much to ask. Not at all. When we're using life is very unstable and unpredictable because we never know if we're even going to show up for important things. I don't know how much clean time you have, but if you stick with it you'll get what you want. Not overnight and not next week necessarily, but your life can become stable and semi-predictable in the next two distant future.
In addition to what I posted above, I'm not a big fan of people getting into relationships in early sobriety. Like I said before, I don't know what your personal circumstances are but I see that you have two months of sobriety and I want to congratulate you on that.
When you get to a point where you have one or two years you will realize that you were seeing through a different set of glasses right now. That's the way it is for everyone. The longer we are sober the more clear are thinking becomes.
When I got sober, I was by myself but I was always in and out of relationships before that. My sponsor convinced me to try staying on my own for as long as it takes to learn more about who I am and how to be a productive member of society. I learned through him that until I did that I didn't really have much to contribute to any relationship.
I also learned during those days that I was codependent. I never really lived in my own place for any length of time, paying my own bills, decorating my house the way I would see fit and everything else that goes along with having your own place. Those were definitely some growing days for me.
That was sometime around 2003 when I started on that Journey. I met a woman from the Philippines who was working in Hong Kong in 2015. We dated online for two and a half years before we finally met in person. We spent two weeks together a year later. She came here in February of 2019 and we were married in 3/2019. I am very happily married and life has never been better.
In early sobriety we don't really know who we are or what we want in life or more importantly what God's purpose is for us. Unless you're married and/or have kids, I recommend that people put off relationships and start with a clean slate, working on themselves before pursuing any relationships.
Having said that, I also believe in no major changes for the first year. Go to as many AA meetings as possible, get a sponsor who will take you through the steps and give your head some time to clear up.
That's my take.
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I replied previously, but I just wanted to add that I totally understand your feelings. I've been in unstable housing situations in the past and to this day I'm never alone but I'm always lonely. That part kind of sucks, but all I can do is keep busy and keep moving forward and maybe one day I'll meet a real decent partner.