I’ve been sober 10 days now. However I had a slip up before that and now I’m too embarrassed to go back to AA.
My sponsor dropped me after the slip up and haven’t heard since.
Guess I feel lost. 🫤
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They shouldn’t care if you come back and there’s plenty of sponsors to replace them. The same sponsor isn’t the end all be all. You can do this!
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Thank you. Guess I just like my current AA group since it’s close by.
They still shouldn’t care but I don’t know the exact dynamics there haha
Haha yeah.
I would think that they would be grateful you’re still there & working on your sobriety! I’m sure the folks there have all had their fair share of slip ups. 
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No need to be embarrassed. Slip ups are part of the process for many - me included. It’s chipping away at the stone one day at a time. After my falls I always found AA to be a welcoming, forgiving place to go. Plenty of other sponsors out there who will help you on your journey. Don’t give up.
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If its a good group they will welcome you back no matter what. That's what keep coming back really means. Please don't be embarrassed. You deserve better. I slipped every day for a long time. Hope you can find a sponsor that you feel better with. Best of luck.
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Lots of people have slip ups, that’s part of the process. People at AA will understand and appreciate your honesty. You got this. Best wishes.
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Yeah I’ve had maybe 3 since I joined AA
Be honest.. own it and move on. In my opinion a sponsor so quick to fire a sponsee is kind of a red flag anyway. Sponsors are guides, not commanding officers. Just keep getting back up. You can do it!
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Thanks all. I feel better already 
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AA's don't turn their backs on people because they slip.
Many people who have been in the program for a long time have seen it all. There's no need to feel embarrassed. You're not the first one to slip and you certainly won't be the last.
However, you do need to learn how to play the scene all the way forward. When you think about drinking, think about what happens afterward. You might feel some relief but it's very short lived and when it's over with you'll have to carry around more guilt just like you're doing right now.
It's called, believing the LIE. That this time everything will be okay. But it never is, is it?
Did you call your sponsor on the phone before you relapsed? Maybe she figured that by not calling you didn't want it bad enough and so why should she waste her time?
I'm only guessing.
Weak sponsor. Ask someone else. A sponsor should be compassionate, not reactive.
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Try the online meetings on Zoom #aahomegroup
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The only requirement for membership is a DESIRE to stop drinking. Your sponsor may have “dropped you” because she was unsuccessful in her work on step 1. But those are her actions. And you can’t control her actions. Only your own response to them.
So get on that horse. Walk back into that meeting with the experience you gained from the slip. Take a desire chip and get back to work. I know, 100%, that you can do it. Because I was hopeless and now I have over 2 years.
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Corrine, I attend a zoom AA meeting AT 1:00 and 8:00 PM EST. It is called No rules No drama just the primary purpose. You are more than welcome to join in. Google online AA MEETINGS and browse the meetings. As long as you desire to stop drinking, you should never be ashamed to come to AA
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AA isn't the only option if you want to try a different program. Dharma Recovery and SMART are a couple of alternatives.
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You’ll be welcomed back with open arms.
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I’ve never heard of those alternatives
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