I called my sponsor as I was relapsing. I recall her saying - let me call you back “I’m at a nail appointment.” Made me feel oh so special.
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I agree with this reply.
Amen Pam
Aa sucks, you can do this on your own
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I see what you're saying. I probably would have asked you have you drank yet? If not then I would have said don't just hang in there for a little longer and I'll be there to meet you.
It's not the end of the world. People come in all different shapes and sizes including the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Just pay attention to the ones that seem like they talk the talk and walk the walk. Big book discussions are a good place to find quality sponsors.
Corinna,
Something else I would like you to think about. Next time you feel like drinking play the scene all the way forward. Think about what's going to happen after you pick up a drink. You might feel some relief for a little while but as you probably already know it is very short-lived.
Then you have to start all over again and carry around more guilt just like you're probably doing now. That's the deception about alcohol. It's called believing the LIE; that this time, everything will be okay. But it never is, is it?
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Don’t be embarrassed to go back to AA, find a new sponsor, play the tape forward when you are thinking of picking up that first drink.
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Try smartrecoverydotorg
Nonjudgmental and science based using CBT. It’s awesome!
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Go back to the rooms. You don’t have to say a word. Just listen. Also, it’s up to us to reach out to our fellows in AA. If I haven’t heard from anyone that tells me I need to make a phone call.
Relapses happen in recovery. It’s how we learn to cope with or avoid whatever triggers us to relapse. Reservations and resentments are the biggest root causes of relapse, especially resentments. Resentments are the number one offended of relapse. If your sponsor dropped you and this is your first relapse then you need a better sponsor. However if relapse is a continuous problem and that’s what caused her to drop you then it means she feels she’s not properly equipped to be your sponsor, either way her dropping you is not your fault, but at the same time it might not be hers either. Regardless, don’t be discouraged. I would suggest finding a new sponsor and not giving up, your life could depend on it. You are worth it and someone will be able to help you properly to work the steps thoroughly as long as you are honest and open minded and fully willing. Don’t give up, I believe in you.
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She's right
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No it never is. The next day is always anxiety and regret and apologizing to everyone I may of talked to.
Yeah…AA is great for meeting people in the same situation and listening to stories. I’m just not fond of the religious side of it.
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Connie girrrrrllll do you know how many drunks are in that room!!! Go!!
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It’s not really religious. Some people tie it to their religion but it’s actually a spiritual program. There are people who pray to Buddha, to a grand conscience, to a goddess, to AA itself…the point is to reset your moral compass with the help of whatever higher power you choose to believe in. Please don’t be frightened by The whole “God” concept, that’s just what most people call their higher power.
I like Refuge Recovery meetings, but they can be just filled with AA people. Careful
All my sponsors just forget I exist if I don’t call them.
SO MUCH THIS. A sponsor leaving you high and (NOT) dry in your biggest time of need? Not cool. I agree...get another sponsor (may be helpful: try to look for somebody with maybe 5 or 10 years max under their belt but as close to age as you as possible) and work those steps. They're the key to all of it. You can do this. 
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Yeah, I hope to look for a new one when I hit a meeting today.
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