Any decent ideas to battle the loneliness? Been sober 5 years but never invited out, no one reaches out. I've accepted the simple and deeper realities of what it means to be sober, but unless there is something Im not seing about myself, maybe i just suck and pushing against that load bearing wall may be more than i can handle.
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All I can say is you’re not alone. I haven’t been dealing with that for awhile. I try to watch good shows or self care. I call my aunts often. I know how painful it feels I believe things can change for the better tho. I tell myself god must want me in solitude for a reason.
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Hey Brandon - have you tried going to AA or NA? I’ve created a great community there. Also, there’s an app called “meetup” - you can keyword search “sobriety” and find sober groups of people doing fun stuff.
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Idk but I can identify completely
I just moved home from about 20 years away and I know no one here except my mom
Definitely NA/AA meetings are a great place to form healthy friendships and with that many years of sobriety your bound to meet someone. Putting yourself out there is always a risk but if loneliness is the issue it's a risk worth taking. Also there is a dating platform on here. I haven't looked into it because that's not 4 me at this time but click where it says community and it should pop up. Good luck with the love life fam. 
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I feel you a lot. I’m just so used to that feeling now that I’ve accepted it actually. When it’s right it’s right and maybe right now it’s not take your time that’s what I’m doing.
Brandon you're not alone. The best I can say is start going to AA Meetings so people know who you are and start getting phone numbers.
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Well you need to learn how to reach out and someone will Reach back. Congratulations 
ON 5 years your Making progress. I CHALLENGE YOU TO WRITE DOWN 
DREAMS. AND OUT OF THE WRITE DOWN 5 DREAMS THAT WILL MAKE YOU CRY. DON'T BE AFRAID TO TAKE THE RISK ON YOURSELF.. YOU ARE WORTH IT
I love my dog! She has been a great comfort and friend to me. Love and companionship doesn't just come from other humans
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The first person I just matched with was a scammer... great
Hey man you’re not alone. Even when feels like you are. Meetings are great place to meet people and then sign up for a service position or volunteer somewhere ( food bank or shelter). For me in my area we have a sober outdoors club where we do hikes and activities. Facebook groups keyword search for sober groups. And you can always reach out here too.
You get out what you put in. Try going to church or join a sober bowling league. Join a softball team or outdoors club. There's plenty of stuff out there but you have to go find what suits you. Good luck buddy, you can do it
I attend meetings and church. Gym, yoga, volunteer or even working step 12.
I'm in the same boat. I don't have any friends outside of work, and work friends only get wasted and moan about work. I have the day off and have just been sitting around.
When I’m lonely I do lots of service work. I learned that when I want love all I have to do is be loving unconditionally. When I want friends I am a good friend to other’s unconditionally.
I hope this helps🙏
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Hate to hear that. Hoping u find something that makes u happy.
I was like you searched for love due to loneliness. Then I realized I had to love myself first. Once I learned to love myself I learned that I have loved from a lot of people. I started volunteering at a local drop-in center for resource and recovery. Like other ones here have said you have to put yourself out there in order to make friends and not to have loneliness. And trust me it is all worth it there is a risk to take but that risk is so worth it.
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Allow yourself to get out of your comfort zone. Try something you always wanted to do.
Hello ANA FEEL. how are you doing today
The world today is different then when we grew up. People are not focused on helping others outside of recovery. Find healing in meditation. Life sometimes is hard. I had to leave my daughters mother and it's difficult. I am a convicted felon and many stigma come with my issues. Just keep the faith and don't take it personal. Someone will welcome you it's a mindset. Try opening up tell them you would like someone to hangout with and see what happens.
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