Lonliness sucks! That is all

Recovery
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Lonliness sucks! That is all.

Listen. I lost my 6 person family. I was a mom to 4 kids. I am now a mom to 1. I lost a husband. I lost my childhood family. They are alive but not in my life. Serious things occurred that were not due to my drinking these events actually lead to my drinking that was previously under control. I went through a traumatic situation and I've been going through it completely alone. I am a mom and I work. Im about to lose my home since i took time to take care of myself. This isnt loneliness due to boredom but from a complete uproot of my life. While I do get bored becasue I dont have funds for sitters or family and friends I can rely on for that. I'm just going through all this alone. And when i say alone I mean absolutely alone.

Yes I do therpay I have for 4 years straight. Yes I do meetings. And I do IOP. But as far as a person ro lean on emotionally that's not there. I try with some friends but it's just not all very I dunno helpful or fulfilling. Thanks

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#2

Absorb the peace it is healing :grin::v::green_heart: Find the Beauty in it.

#3

I do somedays. Other days my isolating life (not by choice but circumstances) is quite unbearable.

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#4

Been there .... sometimes it is for the best. Everything good comes with time and patience

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#5

Sometimes you can be around people and feel lonely.

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#6

Been there too :grin::joy: that one is worse

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#7

My marriage was like that. Such a lonely marriage.

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#8

All about finding the right energy .... Person, Place, situation. Also everything passes in time. :grin::grin::green_heart:

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#9

Ouch I'm sorry, well your in the right place to talk. My gf doesn't know I'm on meds again, she's not supportive of it.

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#10

Yes it does!! It can be on at times, but in the end, we need connection.

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#11

Connection is human nature, very few of our species could survive alone.

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#12

Yes… yes it does. Sorry you’re feeling that way, I was too today and I ended up at a roundup, I definitely do not feel lonely anymore. Love the program and all you people:)

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#13

I dont have much of a support system. I'm estranged from family and legitimately its not because of drinking. I have brothers who also drink. There are other reasons. I'm also not dating. I miss human connection. I did have a bf but he was not good for me. He was a great snuggler. He was affectionate and I never really had that before. So now that it's gone I feel literally deprived.

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#14

I always think to myself I’m not missing anything by staying home. Sober friends would be cool though. But the more I go out at this point the more I’ll be attempted

#15

What helps me is that I stay busy. I throw non-alcohol events 4 times a year. That’s what am planning to do. August 20th was my first event is went great I learned. A lot LOL. It keeps me busy with Venues, food, Music,hiring and promoting I have no time to be bored. Find something you like to do and go for it. There’s life outside of meetings :hugs:

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It's not going out. In the briefest way possible to explain. I lost my daughter, my two step sons and my abusive husband. I went from a 6 person family down to 2. I didnt go out and I rarely drank. My childhood family did not believe me about the abuse and chose him over me. So I lost them as well. Well the truth came out and he is going to prison. I can not exclaim enough that I've had a lot of trauma and the abuse isolated me. I had a boyfriend briefly but he was not good for me. So I also lost the first man that ever gave me good and try affection. This is the loneliness I am experiencing. I actually hadnt been in a bar for 5 years when I first went out last summer. And I haven't been in one since jaunary.

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#17

I'm always busy. I'm a single mom of a 3 year old. Working and trying to not lose my home. My finances are beyond ruined not from drinking. More from trhing to get help for drinking. But mostly becasue of my abusive ec husband. Long story short all I do is try to find ways to stay afloat. Finding help getting on programs. I'm finally back to work. I have a large hose and yardwork and a dog to keep uo with. Doing it all alone.

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#19

Keep yourself busy

#20

Preach it sister!

#21

I do. Single mom. Work. I literally second every moment with my child or work. When I wrote this post I had tried to do several hobbies and chores but couldnt. I was just feeling it. I'm completely alone. No family support or even a best friend to lean on. Outside of groups and trying new aa and therapy this is no one there for me in my life at home.

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