Me and my boyfriend broke up this week. I’m devastated and really struggling with my sobriety and in general. I can’t eat or sleep because the anxiety is so bad and I don’t have the energy to use my regular coping skills. I will be 5 years sober on February 11th. I’m really hoping I can make it to then 
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Girl. 5 years?! That is amazing and inspiring. Don’t lose it over anyone or anything. Stay strong. One day at a time. 
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5 yrs great job sorry for your loss. Get up , suit up , and show up. Get to a meeting. Ask God to surround you with a truth healing around this pain you are going through. Surround yourself with positive people. People who get . Don’t isolate it makes your more depressed. You got this. Sending prayers your way. From Cali:pray:
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5 years is an amazing accomplishment and nothing or no one is worth giving up all the work you've put in to make it this far... And I get it. I know it's hard. My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 months ago and 3 days later I walked into a meeting and saw her with another guy. It was devastating and it was enough to stop me from going to meetings and isolating for over a month. You don't wanna do that, all it did was make me feel more and more depressed and alone and I'm very lucky I didn't relapse because of it. I know it hurts right now but I promise you it WILL get better if you just don't quit and keep pushing forward. It's not gonna happen all at once, but I promise you this will pass and you will come out the other end even stronger for staying sober through a difficult time with a whole new set of coping tools. Just don't quit
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Surround ur self with positive ppl go to ur moms or friends who dnt drink tlk tlk tlk find things to do to tk ya mind off of it I know it’s hard
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You CAN make it till then and beyond. You've already come so far. There is no benefit to looking back at the "should haves" and "what ifs". Keep pushing forward. Call a friend, get to a meeting, watch some comedy. Heck watch puppy / kitty videos. Something to make you smile. It's ok to sit in your cr@p, but remember, everything is impermanent. What you're feeling right now will pass like the clouds in the sky. Better days are coming I promise you.
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Breakups are tough. You’ve built such a beautiful relationship w yourself though. I hope you maintain it. I’m throwing good vibes your way💪
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You've got this! 5 years is awesome!
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I can’t say I know how you feel but I can say I can relate.. 5 years facking AWESOME !!!!! It’s not worth losing for a temporary feeling…. I’ll be looking for your post on the 11th to Congratulate you on 5 years !!!!!
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5 years isn't far away, you can do it.
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I am so sorry! I can relate to the pain of losing a boyfriend. I am currently watching mine disappear as he turns to his addiction and lets it take over. I have been an enabler to him - and it is hard to just let go. Prior to him I had never dealt with someone with an addition. He is killing me- I am codependent and I am in so much pain. Stay strong and if you ever want to talk - I am here!
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This is the time to really use those tools and put them to work. You’ll learn how sick it is to be your own best friend! Being alone is a time for so much transformation and learning. But the only thing that cures heartbreak is time… just hold on, for the literal LIFE of you hold on.. and you’ll look back and be so glad you did. And use all the support you can get! Don’t be afraid to ask for support, that’s what people are for. If you can do 5 years, you can do this. You know you can!
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Hang in there! I can relate and am going to use your strength to remind me of my continuing battle. One hour, one day!
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I'm very sorry friend. My Prayers that you find the strength to continue on your journey. I hope it gets better for you
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You can push through. Heartbreak sucks, but sometimes it’s necessary. Please remember that using or drinking will only make things much worse. You are stronger than you may think.
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Congratulations on your time sober.
Don't believe the big lie; that this time, everything will be OK because it never is.
If you drink, you will regret it the next day I promise. You will have shame to carry around realizing you accomplished absolutely nothing!
I was sober almost 9 years and I relapsed. It cost me 3 yrs of oblivion before I came crawling back.
It was a big lesson, I'll tell you.
If you and your boyfriend broke up it may be a good thing. It may not seem that way right now but time heals.
Been there too.
Get to some meetings if you're not already going and share your experience.
It helps alot!
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I went through the same thing this summer. I’m 4 1/2 years sober and it shook me to my core. Please reach out to me if you want to talk 
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I here ya. I am almost to 3 years sober now and my wife left me for another man because I no longer drink. She said I am not fun anymore. I wanted to drink at first but realized that would not change anything and to move forward with my life. You got this
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Definitely sucks going through what you’re going through especially around this time but just overstand that this is just the journey you’re on to finally being at a “truly” happy place where your spot in your significant others’ life is truly secured and you’re happy and loved. But unfortunately you HAVE to go through this discomfort to make it to the other side. Do whatever you have to do to fall in love with yourself again, I promise that right person and overall happiness in general will follow once you do that 
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Of course you can! Use the tools you’ve learned over the past 5yrs and let that guide you through. I’m sure you’ve been through worse! You’re stronger than you think you are!
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