My daughter died in a car accident Friday evening. The urge to drink is getting stronger and stronger. I know it’s not the answer but this pain is too much. I need help.
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Cravings are just cravings.. they are just random firing urges in your emotional brain to the hey this would be a good impulsive brain but not fully reaching the prefontal cortex used for decision making saying dude we aren't going to do that. Don't you realize that it won't fix anything and maybe make stuff worse. Instant gratification doesn't solve anything. Look what we get, wars, quick fix cures, politics, religion, relationships and everything under the gassy star. Yet true freedom comes from taking away the smoke and mirrors and realizing nature is just naturing naturally be more like the bushes plant your roots deep and reach for the stars and just be everywhere and no where at once but always centered
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I am so sorry, one of my best friends in recovery went through this a few months ago. Our AA community surrounded him for a couple weeks, it was indeed white knuckled for him. He shared the other night that he ran the old saying “WE DO NOT PICK UP” over and over. My heart goes out to you and you can make it through sober, you are worth it
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Praying for you Andrea 
So sorry this happened. Wish I had the words. You’ll be in my prayers
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Fück.
I'm so sorry to hear this.
I have no words and I’m so sorry. I would reach out to friends and family for support if you can. Have people around you.
Jesus wept!
Andrea, this is devastating and I’m so sorry. The truth is that the pain is going to be there with or without the alcohol. Let’s do this without the alcohol. You need to be there for your your other children and grandchildren that are looking to you for strength. You need to be there for yourself. You’ve been doing an amazing job kicking addiction’s a** Just do your best to keep going. You have people in your corner that love and support you.
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I will pray for you and your family. Alcohol and substances just do more damage.
I’m sorry. And I’m here for you. You can do this for your daughter. For your other children. Most importantly For you. So you can continue showing up for this life. You can also reach out anytime. Sending strength!
Sending Prayers 
I'm so sorry for your loss Andrea. Please stay strong 
Omgoodness I’m so sorry. There’s no words for that loss. A drink will not help. Text , call, post, write, meetings… please don’t pick up.
I’m so sorry. Please surround yourself with support. I went through something similar and someone asked me what the one thing is that would make it worse, and it took everything in me, but I knew the answer was alcohol.
You're suffering the ultimate loss. This likely will be your strongest test yet and likely will never be matched.
It's great that you're thinking clear like because I sure know I wouldn't. That will help immensely as you navigate through this.
When you think about drinking, play that tape forward. Will you stop after 1, 2, 5, blackout? Then what?
I wish you the best
Andrea I woke up this morning and my first conscious thoughts were of you. Oh how I want you to know that I did not mean to be flippant in my response above. In Ireland it’s a quote that sometimes is used in sympathy and to me it’s an affirmation that life can overwhelm us because of our humanity. It’s also a reminder that grief an healing are love. My prayer for you and your family is that your children will see how much we all need each other. It’s a special time and special rules apply. Be gentle, accept comfort and support from others. I sought professional help when my mother and my wife both died in a short time, there are some problems recovery and twelve steps are not designed to help us as well as the professionals can. I hope you are here for yourself but you can dedicate your recovery to your daughter.
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I'm so sorry for your loss Andrea, I'm praying for you and your daughter!
Find strength in the memory of your daughter, we can’t always see but they are always with us whispering words of encouragement. She would want you to stay strong. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. 💔