Anybody else get to a point in sobriety where you feel like nothing has changed at all and things would be better drunk? 5 months I've been sober and I'm still living with my parents, alone, and at the same job. If I were to drink after work like I used to I wouldn't have to feel that pain. I don't know if this is normal to feel but lately I have just wanted to go back to the bottle. I would have the same problems I have now.
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That’s some serious disease talk my brother. There’s a reason you got sober. I’m sure you were miserable and desperate. Sure, life may be difficult, but there’s no way your not better off today than you were when you decided to get sober. Give yourself a chance brother. 5 months is great! Stick with it! It’s a process. Some days you just can’t see it. Glad you got honest with how you’re feeling and shared it. Have you tried any meetings yet? Let’s taken snout what you can do to make things better, rather than lie to yourself that a drink wouldn’t hurt
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The reason I got sober is because my ex girlfriend left me and I didn't know what else to do. She's gone so me drunk wouldn't be a problem. My sister has even asked me do you think it was her causing you to drink more and I can't answer that. But I go to meetings every day. The only day I haven't been to one is Thanksgiving. It's just things aren't happening fast enough and being drunk is better because then I don't have to feel the way I feel.
Yes Joe I have had the thought but I know it’s a lie. Alcoholism is the only disease that tries to convince us it is not a disease. Each time the alcoholic picks up we soon are right back in our cups and it becomes rapidly worse from there. Keep coming back.
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Service to others will help even outside of AA and to no drinkers. Time takes time and it can seem like we aren’t making progress when we actually are. Some call this God working behind my back.
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I think things will come together with time, at least that’s what I tell myself.
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I have been in service chaired a meeting last week and chairing one Friday. I just can't get the thought of drinking out of my head. Nothing has gotten better and a drink would help.
That's what I keep telling myself but how long do I have to wait?
I looked at all my old haunts as I drove by wondering what I was missing and who might be inside, finally I realized it was the part of the three S’s the social needs that was missing. I was lonely with too much time to be alone and think about it. So I now make myself talk with everyone I meet each day and I get out of my rut faster. More meetings is designed to help the most and quickest too! You
Don't get me wrong I I love the people in the rooms they've helped me through a difficult time. But if I'm unhappy with my life does it really matter? Like that's what I keep asking myself.
Where are you in action around this?
What do you mean?
Do you feel you have a drinking problem Joe? If not then drink like a gentleman if you feel you do then you know you shouldn’t. Pray for an answer and good luck
I was drinking and driving every weekend. But my ex girlfriend and I were essentially breaking up right after we got engaged. She blames my drinking for it but it's all just a blur to me.
Occasionally I feel like that, then I have to go to my drunk induced probation officer and it cures me of thinking about doing dumb shĂŻt.
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You look young Joe, you can turn things around reinvent yourself. Drinking and driving every weekend is a problem, it’ll interfere with your goals not to mention it’ll come with legal issues eventually.
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Bro you don't even know me in person. I do talk to my sponsor I just saw him last weekend. He goes to 12:30 meetings and I can't do that with work. I am grateful for my parents but if I'm not happy with myself it doesn't really matter. I'm not complaining it's just I felt better about myself drinking. If you don't got nothing nice to say then don't say anything. You have no idea who I am..
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I have already had legal issues in 2019. Thankfully they're both expunged.
I always like AA speakers who acknowledge that sobriety has not made their life fairy tale happy. One even opened with, “I’ve been sober over 5 years and still haven’t amounted to anything.” But he pointed out he no longer has to worry about alcohol causing him to lose freedom, family, friends, job, etc. maybe
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It’s your disease telling you bullshit. Don’t listen.
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