I want to tell my family and sponcer but I don't want to worry them .i tell myself ill get back on my feet and I do but only for a little the secret is killing me.Depression kicks in and I just don't want to deal with it 🤦🤦..i know ima gona have to tell someone cuz it killing me inside acting like everything ok when its not.
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It is easy to beat yourself up and feel shame and guilt and the idea of confession. Yet go at your own speed . Do what you feel is right for you and don't put unwanted pressure on yourself. You will get there.
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Honesty is part of recovery
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When I relapsed, and I had to announce at meetings again, I was horrified. But, I got so connected. I’d have women come up to me after meetings, and say thank you for being honest. And it really changed how I felt about relapse. It’s scary to talk about, but it will totally feel better when you do!
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A relapse can be an incredible tool in your recovery, if you learn from it and confront the conditions around the slip. Your support system will only work for you if they know the truth. Allowing them to walk with you affords them an opportunity to be helpful. Keeping it a secret prevents you from getting help, and denies them the opportunity to be helpful.
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Releasing secrets is freeing and rids you of the shame. It's ok to not feel ok just know help and support is out there🙌🏻 You spoke up here so keep going!! Sending you love!
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Brush off and get that pride behind you. It happened to me and now I have 11 months sober.
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Hi Drea: I understand and completely identify with the feelings of shame and remorse. Maybe just concentrate on staying clean, not using, etc. Tell people later. Just take of YOU right now.
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There’s no shame in asking for help. Maybe being honest about your relapse with others will help you to accept it and grow from it. Those feelings of guilt and shame are only going to drag you down. You are human! Give yourself the same grace that you would give to others 
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Most of us, if not all of us, have relapsed before. While honesty is probably always best, it would probably be better if you told them after you’re back on track. Stay strong. A relapse is not failure, it’s a stumble, a fall. Get back up and move forward. That’s all that matters.
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It took me a while also,just work on you until you feel comfortable!
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Drea first and foremost. Thank you for your honesty. Relapse doesn’t have to be a part of your story but unfortunately it is. I know I have one too. Don’t beat yourself up, breathe and focus on the here n now. Get to a meeting get numbers surround yourself with positive people. You reached out here now you have family and lots of support rooting you on. Sending good vibes my sobriety day 4/19/2019 . You got this , One day at a time!!
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Keep going hunni! If you still have your life, you have a chance!
I know while you are going through it, you don’t want to believe it will all be fine. The truth will set you free, I know, I know cliche, but it is so true. We have all been there and most of us know what we are capable of, so coming clean and admitting a slip is the best thing you can do. I’m telling you from experience, afterwards you will shake your head and say what was I tripping on in the first place. It’s part of the process if you ask me 
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Yeah it's tough to focus on starting over if we're holding onto the guilt. Try to be honest and free from it. You can do this!
You are not alone going through this drea!! I went through it too and I know it’s been said already but the truth really does set you free! I learned so much from my relapse. It was a very valuable part of my journey. Have the conversation with your sponsor first and everything else will fall into place. Once you overcome the fear and guilt you’ll be unstoppable!! You can do this!!
Don't worry so much about the family just yet. Begin by tackling the staying sober part 1st.
Are you familiar with the saying, we are only as sick as our secrets? It’s so true. I’ve relapsed so many times and the quicker you come clean about it, the better. Probably the worse thing you can do is pretend like everything is ok. In my experience, that just perpetuates the disease. There is a cycle of guilt, shame, self pity, and then what do we do, we continue to drink or use. Or at least that’s what I did. Also, consider the possibility that the people around you know that you could be struggling. It’s scary because I know I didn’t want to cause more disappointment with loved ones, but being truthful will bring some relief and you can get back on track with your recovery. Hang in there!